i have no safe place

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Registered: 07-18-2003
i have no safe place
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Sat, 03-20-2004 - 7:40pm
thanks so much for all of your support on my last post i am sorry i didn't respond sooner. i am where i was the first time i left, my parents vacation house, which is not in the state where i live. i thought i could feel safe here becuase it's soo far from home. i had flowers on my porch two days ago. i went immediately to the local police station in hysterics and they promised to patrol and help me in every way they can, However, since there wasn't a card or anything attached there isn't much they can do. i feel like i am going to die soon. i know that sounds crazy, i feel like i have no safe place to be. My parents aren't even in the country right now and i am debating going to where they are just to get far away. What i would do with my dog i'm not sure though. i don't know what to do but i am not safe anywhere, my motion lights outside went off again, it could be nothing but when that happens i clench my phone and think that he's coming for me. it's like i'm waiting for him attack me, i just don't know when it's going to happen. i need to leave here for sure but i shouldn't have to i should be able to feel safe here. He was so so violent when we were together last, i think because he realized i can never feel the same about him. before the police came he was cutting me all over with a vase he had broken over my head. i can't get the rage that was on his face out of my mind. i need to let this go. i want to talk to someone about this, but i think i should just wait until i am truly settled somewhere first. thanks for listening.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-20-2004 - 8:28pm

Dear JJ,


I am so glad that you have alerted the police to what is happening. What you said does NOT sound crazy at all. The fact he sent you flowers is a warning signal. Listen to your gut and act on it. He is extremely violent.


Honey, I urge you to call the hotline (I have copied the number below) to find the nearest shelter. Call the shelter and tell them that you fear for your life and that you need safety. They will help you. Ask them as well about what can be done for your precious dog.


Listen to your instincts, JJ. Please call and get yourself to a safe place. The shelters are warm, wonderful places. You will be able to stay in one until you decide what to do

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-20-2004 - 8:38pm

Oh jj, I'm so sorry that he is doing all this to you.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Sun, 03-21-2004 - 12:45am

JJ, honey, I agree with silver and sweet.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you