Time to say goodbye. . .

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Time to say goodbye. . .
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 8:55am
to all of you wonderful folks. This board has been tremendous support for me during the past several months and I've learned so much. I will keep each and every one of you in my thoughts and prayers. You're all such brave women and I pray that you find love and peace and happiness in your lives someday, in whatever that means to you.

As for me, I'm in my own process now. I've shared on many occasions that I'm a recovering addict and in doing my 4th step; i.e. taking my own personal inventory, I've spotted so many areas of unmanageability. As so many of you have shared, living with an addict/alcoholic is h#ll on earth. I'm taking responsibility now for much of the damage I did in my relationships with others, and having to own up to my own abusive tendencies. This doesn't mean that all is peachy in my marriage, it means that I do have some work to do on myself before I can truly consider myself the victim of abuse.

I will continue to lurk here because I know the "abuse" that occurred in my marriage is far from over in my mind and heart, whether its what I did to him or what he did to me. There haven't been any episodes of abuse, physical or emotional, between H and I in a very long time and now I need to start the healing.

I've read so much here and have such a better understanding of what abuse is and for that I am thankful. I've learned how to draw boundaries with H, and others, and I've experienced so much growth as a result of everyone here sharing their experiences. Your honesty is compelling and this is a wonderful haven for victims of abuse to support each other. I will still be here reading and keeping you all in my prayers. May God Bless each and every one of you! Love and positive vibes comin' from New Jersey!

mo 7-18-10

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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 4:44pm
Hugs momesq! Go easy into your inventory taking. I, as many more, will be hoping you do more than just lurk,,,,comeon in and say hey. A part of the abuse cycle is how we see and judge ourselves and our actions. We will always be glad to answer your questions and to share your achievements.

You have become part of us and I hope you don't think you do not deserve to post here because you do.

So take the time you need, but always know that you are so welcome here with us. No matter what's going on, whether it's just with yourself or with others, we'd love to hear from you and help you in all matters and parts of your journey.

Stay safe and stay true to yourself.

Hugs

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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 5:34pm
Thanks so much for your kind response. I often feel like my ideas are alittle out of cync with this community, another reason I feel I need to go. But I truly have learned alot and have so much respect for the folks on this board who've had the courage to move on. My process just looks a bit different . . ..

mo 7-18-10

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:33pm
Momesq, while I understand your need to leave, I will miss seeing you here.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 7:32am

I agree with Cheryl, Momesq. (I still love that nic! : ))


You belong here as much as any of us. I think that it is healthy to share different opinions here! Hope you will come back and post.


Hugs!


Christine

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi