prayers needed

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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 2:12pm
My mother is going in for triple by-pass surgery this friday. This all started happening last wedsnday. What was suppose to be a simple procedure turned into this. We only found out today when the surgery is going to be. They are very positive, my mother is young and in good health other than this. In my mind I see it as she's a walking time bomb ready to go off any minute. The surgeon says her recovery is 95-100% results.

I once again have been very teary with all of this but my relationship with her is changing. I need her more than ever right now. After I heard with no other info I asked if she would mind if I would go to my theropy appointment she said no, I asked her not to say a word to my father, she said that was fine. I feel like I have been a bad daughter alot in the last year or so. I have been avoiding her on purpose. My father and I have many issues

I found out just today when the surgery is going to be, I called dh at work to tell him when it is. First words outta his mouth was you always call at the wrong time there are so many here that need me. I said when her surgery is scheduled for he informs me he has a meeting at 5am that day. I tried to tell him all the positives about the surgery and he just proceeded to go on about his meeting. My youngest son has an appointment that morning that it took me 8 months to get. I told him well you gotta cancel it YOU have to take him. He started stumbling over his words and I said YOU dont have a choice YOU WILL take him to the doctors.

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In reply to: ikaratekid
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 2:48pm
Good for you Karate, you stood up to your H.
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 2:51pm

Go Karate girl!

CL-Blueliner4

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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:49pm

My thoughts will be with you and your mom on Friday, Karate.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 7:44am
I am not doing so well with the book. I struggle terribly with reading. I also have alot going thorugh my mind. Is this an excuse? Possibly.....but true. The time is coming nearer and the anxiety is setting in. I had a really good conversation with her this morning. She went right into are you gonna be able to handle this, I told her it is now time for us to help you out. Quit worrying about us. I also told her that we will react you have to accept that. I explained to her I have already seen my son in NICU and there is a man I did CPR on and unfortunatly he died but I did see him on life support also. Its time to stop worrying about us. She told me thank you that helped her out. She told me anxiety is setting in as the time grows nearer, I said that is fine, keep taking deep breaths....anyone would be having anxiety at this point.

Monday dh wasnt so good, I explained to him if he says one more word I will leave for the evening, he didnt say one more word and he is taking friday off. He was yelling at me, I couldnt handle it I am at my breaking point with his BS. I think he got the message he has not brought it up since and treating me better.

My father well....he's not dealing so well either. He's being very selfish and mean to my mother. He's been drinking alot and is just plain mean and nasty and putting "blame" where it does not belong. I am spending the night thursday evening to take her in to the hospital. This will help me feel a little better I hope.

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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 9:14am
Wow Karate.
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In reply to: ikaratekid
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 12:00pm

Given everything that's going on with your mother, it's OK if you've got a little on your mind.

CL-Blueliner4

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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 3:02pm
Sending you a hug and a prayer . . . .

Jackie

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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 1:06pm
Hugs karate! I hope your Mom does well tomorrow in surgery! And go easy on yourself through this stressful time. We do have the tendency to beat on ourselves during times of high stress.

I pray both you and your Mom do well and that all will be better for both of you.

Go easy on yourself karate and keep the path to freedom!

Hugs

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Registered: 03-24-2004
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 2:50pm
Many prayers and think positive karatekid. I will pray for you.

"Give ear to my words, O Lord,

consider my sighing.

Listen to my cry for help,

my King and my God,

for to you I pray.

In the morning, O Lord, you hear my voice;

in the morning I lay my requests before you

and wait in expectation. " Psalm 5

This prayer is considered one of the best-loved or best known Psalm, a plea for help in time of trouble. May God bless you. Many hugs, Tia.

 

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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 6:02am
ikarate,

My thoughts are with you today. You and your mom are in my prayers. Keep us posted on how things are going. Stay strong - we are all here, pulling for you and your loved ones.

Pam