legal advise

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Registered: 01-22-2004
legal advise
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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 10:03am
i guess i might find another board more suited for this or these questions, but i figured i'd try my hand here first since all of you know me.

i'm getting ready to file for divorce. i'd been checking around and i'm pretty sure i'd like to do the no fault divorce. it's just cheaper and seems simply. since i have all the assets and children i thought, hey what do i have to lose. i'm not sure if it's b/c my h was not expecting this or what but he is acting like a complete moran. when i first mentioned it he was all for it. now he wants to fight it out. he says he want's custody of our daughter. when he hasn't even picked her up the last two times he was suppose to. she hasn't stayed with him in two weeks. he even went as far to say he wished he didn't have her. he wished he had nothing w/me. should i be taping these comments? is this somehting i can use when it gets down to it? would it benefit me to bring the abuse out and not do the no fault divorce? how does this work?

i want to place a ro on him. but, i really want him to sign these divorce papers and i'm afraid if i place the ro first i will have to battle him for the divorce. which it looks as though i'll be doing that anyway. did any of you guys have to fight for the divorce? how long will this really take? how much time i am looking at here?

i know i should be patient, but he won't stay off my back. questioning every little thing i do. making accusations. he thinks b/c i just up and left him i'm leaving him for someone else. when really i just had enough. he said it shouldn't be so easy for me to just walk away. i told him he makes it easy for me. just by being himself.

i just want it all to end. once and for all. i want my life and my name back.

mel

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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: imel240
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 10:15am

www.womenslaw.org


Thats a really helpful website regarding legal rights in the state in which you live. And I would definitely document everything and anything you can get your hands on.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
In reply to: imel240
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 11:05am
thanks. i just found a legal clinic that will be up and running in 2 weeks. they are going to help me with a permanent ro then. then the divorce. in the meantime she said i can go to the justice court w/o a lawyer and file a temp. ro for 10 days. man, there are a lot of places out there to help us. i really needed this assistance. thanks wishful...
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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: imel240
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 11:20am
Your welcome, I am glad I could be of some assistance.

"Life is not measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." --George Carlin

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: imel240
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 12:45pm

YAY!


Excellent timing on the part of the clinic.

CL-Blueliner4