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I need help and someone to talk to
| Fri, 03-26-2004 - 1:01am |
This is my first time here and i just wanted someone to talk to. My Ex will not leave me alone. He tells me that he owns me and that i have to do whatever he tells me to do. I cant stand it when he touches me. Is there anyone out there who can help me? I have thought about getting a gun and protecting myself but i fear that he would over power me and use it against me. I just want it to end. I want to have a normal life, is that to much to ask? Please help!

He doesn't own you and you don't have to do what he tells you to do. You don't belong to him. Abusers think they own their victims, they think they're entitled to control them, manipulate them, instill fear in them among many other negative things. It is not too much to ask to have a normal life. You deserve a normal and happy life. Please be careful and keep us posted. Please keep posting here to vent, to learn about abuse, to get support, advice, and feedback. Again contact the police. You can also call this 24 hr hotline number 1(800)799-7233. Many hugs and be safe, Tia.
Edited 3/26/2004 3:04 am ET ET by tia1029
Tia is absolutely correct - DO NOT GET A GUN! Check the home page for lists of phone numbers to call. Read and learn all you can. Work on building your support and your confidence. He does NOT OWN YOU. Nobody can own another person. Keep yourself safe, but start learning. Once you start to learn, you will see that his tactics are all a part of his game to make you believe him. Reach out to others, however you can, to help you see that he is manipulating you to be what he wants. And he has no right to do that. No right at all. Even God would not try to make you be something you aren't.
Keep reading, keep writing and keep learning. If you have any fear for your safety, call the police, they can get you in touch with a womens center or shelter to help protect you. But most of all, begin to realize, you are not his to own.
Hugs,
Ples
Jen
Jen
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
- Maya Angelou