divorce in very near future

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Registered: 01-15-2004
divorce in very near future
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Tue, 05-11-2004 - 2:04pm
Hi all. It's been awhile since I have been on this board. I really thought I was done with the abuse, but I guess not. My last post was due to the fact of being pregnant by Kevin, the man I left my stbxh for. Well, now since I won't abort, which H expects me to do, I am afraid he will try and take my kids or just screw with me totally. Why can't he just understand that we are over and make things as clean and easy as possible? I have enough to worry about and now this. I know he is gonna stop paying my 5 yr old daycare and there is no way I can afford it since I finally got my own place. I am just so confused. I am gonna call the DV shelter tomarrow and see about starting the divorce process before he can, which will look better on my part. He did finally have to face the music on the DV charge. He got 1 1/2 yrs probation, anger manangment, spousal abuse classes, drug and alchol classes and some other class. He has to pay over $1500 in fines.I just can't afford a lawyer if things get ugly. I know it takes awhile to get child support so I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions???? Christina

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 3:20pm

Here is a useful website that will help you: www.womenslaw.org


Defines what your legal rights are per the state in which you live.


Also, the DV Shelter can give you some pointers as well, perhaps getting legal aid can help too.

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 3:45pm

Girley, I know this is a tough time for you.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you

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Registered: 05-03-2003
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 4:17pm
if you don't mind me asking. What were the charges for him? I am wondering what my ex is going to get in court. I hope jail time but I don't know. My ex's were terroristic threats, simple assault, criminal mischief, false entrapment. I see yours only got probation. Did you go to municpal court or superior court?
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Registered: 01-15-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 4:24pm
All mine got charged with was a misdimenor assult. This happenend in Jan and he is just now facing the music. He would have faced jail time if he took it to trial, which he was concidering. The only reason he didn't is because the states atty had a written statement from both of us and because I have pictures of what he did. I did do what I could to keep him out of jail, only for the simple fact that I needed his support of my kids. I can't financially support them alone right now. Once they are both in school, Aug, it will be easier.In my opinion he got off pretty easy. Good luck.

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Registered: 05-03-2003
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 5:01pm
Well good luck with everything. I was just nervouse about what to expect in court. My court date is on June 3rd I think and I think he may take it to trial. O well. He wants me to talk to his lawyer and tell the courts I was lying about everything. I am not though. He is know telling me he is going to be taking me to court for palimony if I do not drop the RO family court order. I am not though. I guess he feels that this is the only way he can still control me. Everything will work out for the best. Don't let your ex upset you anymore. All this drama is not good for you or that baby yhou are carrying. I would get a lawyer though or at least maybe talk to one to find out what your options and so that you can be prepared. Take it ease.

Candi

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Registered: 01-15-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 4:28pm
Don't let him control you that way. If you lie under oath or even to the lawyer, you'll be the one in trouble. The states atty and everyone else will know. The courts don't take lightly to domestic violence cases. Things will work out, keep a high spirit. Christina

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