Cant take anymore.........

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Cant take anymore.........
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 2:34am
Hi friends , {{{hugs)))....well the first thing i have to tell you is that i have been offered a house ( a very nice one at that too ) by the housing association that i applied to a couple of months ago.

I sign for it tomorrow and get the keys on Monday and then i have 4 weeks to move in.

My kids are saying to me that want to move in on Monday........lol....but i guess that speaks volumes doesnt it?..

Anyway , as you know my wonderful (sarcastically) husband decided to move himself back into our house like i told you after he took it upon himself to sell the house that he was in( his house )so he could "be with us ", not that WE wanted him to be with us ,

and he was going on and on about "this is where i live , i dont know anywhere else",etc.

Anyway hes moved in , and hes been in about what - 10 days - and already has lists on the fridge , telling us what to do , who to phone ( for HIM ), hes going round the house going through all the drawers looking for i dont know what , he sits in " his chair " , and just sits there telling us what he wants us to do there and then while hes just sitting there??....

Last night while i wa out taking Katy ( 18 ) for her couselling session, my other daughter Amy ( 13 ) was being ordered about apparantley , and she was in tears when we got back home.

We had a burst a while ago on the boiler cupboard and there was water everywhere and unfortunatley his precious torch ( yeah a torch ) got a lot of water into in as it was in the cubby below.

Anyway hes forgot about this , wanted to use the torch last night , and

started blaming Amy for it?? from what she said he said to her - and i quote - -

" ive not been back 5 mins and already thing are getting broken , all i seem to be doing it moaning about things that are not right" , and Amy turned round and said - " YEAH DAD DONT WE KNOW IT "??? ................go Amy.............but on the other hand im scared that he could turn round and hit her because she does stand up for herslef now.......and she used to be daddys girls he made it very obvious that she was his favourite and she knew it , now she wants to move out the day we get the keys........

He gets up in a morning about 7am , and goes out at 8am , and all that time he doesnt talk to me other than to tell what i should be doing in the day , on the way out of the front door he saying right lets go through what i want you to do today........and then reeling off a list of people to phone , things he wants doing , like paying the bills , his bills , and hes the one that works in the city near the places that hes telling me to go , he says he hasnt got time as hes the one working.........well again thats a bit degrading , if i wasnt ill due to him i would be working also.

My eldest daughter Katy is feeling very guilty about leaving him in the house on his own , and i keep telling her that she has nothing to feel guilty for.

It was her birthday the other week and for the first time ever her dad gave her £100 , hes never done that before , and i think it a case of the donkey and the carrot.

Hes shown no sign of physically going to get some help for himself , so to me hes not interested ,. all he wants is how he looks , 2.4 kids , nice house , he needs people to know hes here and i think thats all that matters to him , hes not showing love in any way at all , all he is doing is ordering us about and giving us all chores to do.

Sorry im going on but im really fed up now.

Be back soon,

Love Tracey x
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 1:29pm

The cycle of abuse on your side of the pond isn't any different than it is here.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 2:06am

Wow, does that all sound very familiar.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you