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| Wed, 05-12-2004 - 1:39pm |
well, just got back from signing the divorce papers. ahhhhhhhh..... relief... feels good, real good. althought it'll be another 2 weeks before i get a hearing and then another month for him to get a lawyer, at least the process has begun. got some question for you ladies who have already been through this. we (my lawyer and i) are asking for everything. things i didn't even think of. she said it's better this way. just to put it all out there in the beginning. we filed the ro and that'll be served w/the divorce papers.
so here's my questions... after the hearing he has a month to get an attorney or decide if he will represent himself, right? that's what my lawyer told me. but, what happens then. we go and try to settle? what if he wants to drag it out? can he? can this process last longer then a few month? if so, how? is there anyway he can pospone it? i would have asked my lawyer but i just got to thinking aobut it. you ladies know how these men work. i know they will do it, but can they?
mel

I should have gone the 'press forward to trial' route from the beginning. There is no reason not to proceed with the paperwork as quickly as possible. If there is to be a negotiated settlement, it can be done during the waiting periods. I think the abuser's sense of entitlement makes it impossible for them to accurately judge what is a fair deal. It took me two years to fully realize this. His sense of entitlement means that he truly believes it is all his and I am trying to steal it. Even the kids see the inequality of it. Sad really.
IGNORE him and just keep doing the next right thing. Push your lawyer if you have to. The squeeky wheel gets the grease, they say. Good luck and keep looking up^, Susan.
Yes, asking for everything and negotiating from there is a good tactic.
CL-Blueliner4