Hearing date set

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Hearing date set
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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 2:17pm
My lawyer finished my paperwork yestrday and filed it in my county yesterday afternoon. We have a hearing for an emergency ro on Monday. B/c Tuesday stbx will be served w/divorce papers. So we need this. We will have our divorce hearing on May 27th. I'm praying he doesn't show up. If he doesn't it will all end right then and there. The reason I think he might do that is b/c he's been doing drugs again. Heavy drugs. He was suppose to pick up our daughter on Sat. and never showed up. Didn't call or anything. His uncle was also killed last Friday in a traggic motorcycle accident and was buried on Tuesday. He never called or showed his face at the funeral or services. So I'm just hoping he does the same for our hearing. Just wanted to let you guys know how things were going in the divorce process. Ahhhhh.....

I also started counseling last night. The kids started last Wed. and I went along and spoke to the therapist and she suggested I talk to her and get another counseler for the kids. So I did. So while they are in play therapy, I'm in therapy. Gives me a chance to relax and realize things I've never noticed before. They seem to think I put a lot of pressure on myself to not be like my dad. That I carry the guilt of our past. Which makes sense b/c I really don't think he realizes how his actions have affected the person I am. She also thinks I'm overprotecting myself right now given my past. But, says it's okay and she wants me to continue on this path. Of analyzing things and really thinking things through. She hopes that by doing this, someday I'll find that happy medium. B/c my entire life I've been unprotected. That's what she says. I feel really good. They say I have very good inner awareness. I'm just ready to break this cycle of abuse...right now. I'll do whatever it takes to do that. I feel like I'm making those steps. I can finally breath now. Thanks for listening...

Mel

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: imel240
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 2:49pm

Good job Mel!

CL-Blueliner4