No family support - so discouraged
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No family support - so discouraged
| Sun, 05-16-2004 - 9:31pm |
*weep* My dad came over to talk to H today. I told mom that H was abusive. While she agreed some of it was bad, her response was "at least he doesn't beat you up." No, just raises his fist and threatens too, or throws things at me or threatens to kill me in my sleep. And, at least according to H, Dad said absolutely nothing about the abuse. Not even a thinly veiled "husbands should treat their wives ...." I can't believe it. They might as well have told him to go ahead and keep doing it. It's clear they too think I am nuts about all this. Dammit. Do I really need to get beat black and blue for someone to give me at least a little bit of a hand. I'm so disappointed. I thought they would stick up for me. I have a mind to tell them that.
I have to go shopping. Maybe I can do it without weeping through the aisles. This is so wrong.
MG

Don't expect to get support from anybody that sees the "good" side of your H. Stay on these boards. You'll get a lot of support here. I'm new but there are many that have been here for a while and they'll really help...Dharma, Newcam, Bama
Keep in touch...
I can't give you a huge amount of advice I am right in the middle of my own stuggle except keep talking here,look up all the links especially the one on abusive behaviors I didn't think it was that bad until I read about 30 things on that list my H had done.
As far as you're parents are concerned I would advise you to maybe stop talking to them about it they are clearly not qualified or able to deal with this. I had to decide to stop talking to my mom about this stuff as she feels way too close to it all and is just not able to give me the answers I need.
Try to think of it this way you have told them H is abusive they must be thinking all these nasty thoughts (like any sane person would) about your H suppose they tell you what you want to hear and let out all their true feelings about him and then after all that you make up or stay with him doesn't that make it very awkward for everyone including you. I know you want their support they are your parents but I have learnt the hard way sometimes your friends or parents are just NOT the wright people to talk to about this.
I hope you feel better I will talk to you as much as you want and just don't stop talking about this......
M
Glad you all are here.
MG
I am new to this board and going through something very similar - I wish you luck and hope that you find a way to trust yourself and go with your gut - I am going to try, its had when you feel so drained emotionally, but we have to.
I would say that it is good that you are here because as our friends love us and try to help us they are not alway helpful, my friends kept trying to hook me up with a guy hoping i'd have an affair and that that would give me the strenght to leave my H, they ment well but that just is not my way of doing things and thier lies to my H just made things worse.
Good luck to you and me. Lets be strong
L J