He brought them back..

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Registered: 03-26-2003
He brought them back..
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 11:54am
Thanks to you all for your prayers...and he brought them back around 7:00 last night. I didn't confront him. This is what blows me away..he was at the same place I was on SAt.for my neices grad. Stayed at the same motel the kids said they saw me there. That is where his girlfren lives or used to. I was trying to see what she looked like at the grad. I have an idea but not sure.? But why would he do that..then he asked the kids where the graduation was..well if his g/fren was there for her kids then I am pretty sure he knew? He took them fishing there and she came over or he stopped at there house. My daughter said she tried to use his cell phone to call home but he said it didn't reach..baloney..I just don't know what to think> I thought I was over it..everything..but I had a weird dream about them and him yesterday am..and he was crying saying he wanted to come back/he didnt like driving back n forth etc...then the next dream was he was in a wheel chair and was asking me to take care of him..cuz he was injured in an accident..?

Then around 10:30 last night an unavailable call came through and so I picked it up but didn't say anything and they hung up..prob him. But I am so relieved that they are home safely..and yes I think he did that just to be controlling or whatever is going through his head..still trying to pry into our lives...I was really down last night..I don't know why..but I have to just focus on me and the kids..thanks again..for all of your concern. I will not let him manipulate my life again..ever..
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 1:07pm

I agree completely that he was doing all of that as a control thing, since he's done that type of thing in the past.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 2:08pm
I just got an em from my atty. and he's saying that he told me that there was no set time to bring them back on sun..to which he never let me know. All he said was visitation which the usual time was from friday evenig to sat evening..seems like "they" attys and him made that decision w/out my input, as usual. ARGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!! He tells the kids things I don't even know about...like Iam taking you for the summer etc, when I havent even thought about that yet etc. I am just like so frustrated w/him and everything..and I know he isn't doing this b/c he loves his children. Its more like torture..manipulation, deceivement but the attys and the judge will let it go on and on..I am so exhausted you know..I hate his games, I hate his controlling..manipulations and that he could fool these people into thinking he is this wonderful man, a father who is doting to his children. Yeah, take them to see his girlfriend...why does he do those insane things..to his children..no less. I just wished he left and never looked back..my one and only wish.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 3:01pm

If they're making up the visitation rules as they go along, that needs to stop.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 5:16pm
i am so glad to hear they are home safe with you
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 10:02am
Hugs Sweet, I am so glad you got your kiddos back. What a terribly upsetting and stressful experience. I agree with others, your court order needs to state specific times for pick up and drop off. I can't believe it doesn't. When I was in mediation they wanted me to pick times that pick up and drop off would happen so there could be no confusion or manipulation. (Although the manipulation continues to happen, of course).

I am confused though, the court order says to return the kids Saturday evening? Didn't he give them back Sunday evening? Isn't that a violation anyway?

Hang in there and put that lawyer of yours to work!!! Sounds like there needs to be some changes to that court order ASAP.

Liz