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Registered: 03-26-2004
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 9:44am
I realized last night that the 23rd is a Sunday. Do they let people out of jail on a Sunday? Or do yall think they will let him out earlier like Friday or Saturday? Maybe he will have to wait for Monday. I called the officer I have been dealing with and he said that he would get back to me. I wish he would call me and tell me that my x got in a fight or something and has to stay in jail longer. I know that when he gets out he will be looking for me. I can only imagine how angry he is at me. It has been nice not to have to worry about him for a while, but now Im even more worried. Before yall fuss at me, I am planning on going and staying at the shelter. I have already talked with them and they told me to come whenever. I know that I cant stay there forever but it is the safest place for me to be when he gets out. Staying at the shelter will be easier this time because i have time to prepare. Chris is going to keep my Pets for me and my son is going to stay with a friend. Thanks for listening to me.

Van

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Registered: 02-28-2001
In reply to: hurtinginga
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 12:06pm
Hi Van. It's most likely that he will be released on that Sunday if that is the day that was given to you. Are you registered with the victim's notification system? If it were me, I would enact your safety plan on Saturday, ie, have your pets at your friend's, son where he will be staying and you out of the house with everything you will need so that you don't have to go back to the house for anything. This is the time that you are at greatest risk for him attacking you again, and with all that has happened before now, it is very likely that he would try to kill you, and possibly succeed if you haven't taken the steps to keep yourself, your son and your pets safe. Make sure you have all your important documents and records out of the house. This means birth certificates, marriage license, social security numbers (including his), copy of any lease or mortgage information, utility bills, bank statements, income tax statements for the last 3 years, records of debts jointly owed, anything at all that you can possibly think of that will assist you in obtaining any and all help that you might need.

The most important thing, though, is that you keep yourself safe. Have you discussed the situation with your employer and what steps have they taken to insure your safety while in the workplace? This freak has already proven that he has no respect for the RO that is currently against him and just plain doesn't care. This type of abuser is the scariest and most dangerous, because they simply do not believe that the "rules" apply to them. Good luck, Van, I will be keeping you in my prayers. Also, ask for an emergency cell phone that you can use to quickly contact the police should he show up at your place of work. Keep that phone charged up and on your person, easily accessible at all times. Also, find out if you can legally keep pepper spray on hand. Considering all that this guy has put you through already, any and all measures you enact to keep yourself safe are completely justified. Hang in there. Mama Harmony

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: hurtinginga
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 1:02pm

Mamacaj is right about everything she's said.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 03-26-2004
In reply to: hurtinginga
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:10pm
MY x is getting out on Sunday, I am going to shelter on Friday. I have talked to officer about pepper spray, he said that if I come by the station he will give me some to carry. I have not talked to work yet, im not sure what to do. I have already missed so much work lately, i hate to ask for more time off, but i am scared to go to work on the days that i will be completely by myself. I know that i can call the police if i see him, but he can do alot of damage before they would get there. I know that he is ready to kill me. The longer he sits in jail the madder he is getting. The judge warned him the last time that if he violates the RO again he would get 90 days. I dont think he cares. A friend told me that he talked to my x and my x told him that if he was going to go back to jail it would be for more than just violating a stupid RO. I know that our paths will eventually cross, im sure he will see to it. I just hope i can get to the police soon enough. Im am really frightened, and dont know what is going to happen next.

Van