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Is this abuse?
| Wed, 05-19-2004 - 1:47am |
Ok, I really need some unbiased opinions on whether my fiance's actions constitute as abuse or not. He never wants to go anywhere even though I'm at home 24/7 with our son (and he has the only car for work.) He won't help with our son at all and expects me to do everything while he plays online games. He yells at me a lot for making him mad even when he's the one who said the thing to me that got me upset, usually it's I'm childish and can't make any decisions on my own. He is a total control freak, he always has to have everything his way or no way and then tells me that I am! He constantly makes it seem like being a student (college, which my father and scholarships pay for) a stay-at-home mom are super easy and that the only one who has any reason to be tired or upset is him. Granted he turns it all around and makes me feel so small. He has a huge superiority complex. He yells at me when he knows my family can hear and is constantly threatening to leave to the extent where he just gets his keys and then changes his mind. If I try to walk away when he yells at me and calls me names, he grabs my arms/wrist/waist and won't let me go and gets really mad when I tell him to stop and pulls tighter. His family has a history of mental illness also. He makes me feel like I'm only good for things men thought women were only good for in the 1920's. I always feel worthless and I don't even cry anymore when he yells at me. I know there is other things he does I just can't think straight right now. I just need to know, is this emotional abuse and should I leave asap?
Edited 5/19/2004 1:57 am ET ET by cece177
Edited 5/19/2004 1:57 am ET ET by cece177

Whether it's technically abuse or not, I don't know. I just know I woudln't live with someone like that in public, on the internet (on-line romance), I have put up with it, not that I wanted to, but in public, no way.
There is another post on this board which contains an abuse checklist. I went thru it a couple days ago - you should check it out too; I'm sure you will be able to check off quite a few on the list, as did I. Keep posting here and keep us updated, OK?
LULA-mae
Welcome to the board, cece177.
Peace and hugs,
Cheryl =)
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Hi cece…welcome to the board.
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