update, he is out of jail

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Registered: 03-26-2004
update, he is out of jail
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 5:34pm
Hello Ladies,

It has been awhile since I posted. My X got out of jail yesterday, he has called my son looking for me, but I havnt heard anything from him. I am staying at the shelter, but am still working at the same place. I know he knows where I work, and i fear that he will eventually come by. My boss is interviewing for a part time person to work here so that I wont have to work alone at any time. I have talked to police and they are on my side. I can call them anytime that I feel unsafe. That is about it for now.

Van

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:42pm

Do you still have your RO?

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 03-26-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:42am
Blue,

I do have a perminant RO. My boss runs 28 different stores and I see her maybe once a month. A picture would not help. Besides I dont have any recent pictures of my x, we have been divorced since 92'. He has changed alot since then. I didnt have any problems yesterday, hopefully today will be the same. I was worried that he was lurking around here yesterday so that he could follow me. He has done that before, and when I would stop at store or gas station, he would block my car so that I couldnt go anywhere. He then will make me get in the car with him, take me to hotel or a secluded area, have his way with me, and then take me back to my car. Why does he think this is normal? Anyway, I called the police and they check the area out, and made sure that I wasnt being followed when I left. I went straight to the shelter and stayed there. Im to afraid to go anywhere or do anything right now. In a way I kind of wish he would find me just to get it over with. If I survive, he will be in jail and I will be safe again. I really hate being scared all of the time.

Van

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 4:07pm

Van, realizing it's a very drastic step, have you considered changing your name and moving out of state with your son?

CL-Blueliner4