Its getting worse

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Its getting worse
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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:28pm
he seems angry all the time.No matter what.The name calling is out of control.Today he BIT me,I still cannot believe it.He bit me between my thumb and pointer.broke the skin and for some reason the fingernail on my thumb turned blue.He was calling me horrible terrible names,the c- word, dumb bitch etc. I asked him to stop, it got worse, my son was in the backseat (we were in the car) I hit him in the arm,crying by now.He punched my arm,grabbed my hand and just bit? He told me the reason it looks so bad is cause I pulled away...Who the hell wouldn't if someone is biting them. In just over a year of marriage,I have been punched,kicked,pushed,choked and now bitten.I have to find a way to be on my own again. I can't take anymore...I don't know who my husband has turned into, and I can't believe I am allowing this.I feel so trapped....
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Registered: 04-21-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:34pm
Have you looked into shelters in your area? It sounds like this is getting more violent. Be sure to take pictures of your injuries, keep them somewhere besides at home, a friends, neighbors, work, whereever, so that you will be able to document this abuse you're taking. Bites from humans are the worse injury there is. Be sure to take care of that wound.

My prayers and hugs are heading your way.

Lori
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:42pm

GO TO THE ER AND GET THAT CHECKED OUT.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 3:43pm
I can relate to the tragedies you've faced and are facing now. I've been through pretty much everything you've mentioned and then some. I was into a relationship for about a year when I started noticing the intense anger, etc. I stayed married to him for barely 5 years. I finally had enough and left only to divorce the situation and him. I would've left earlier, but I remained with him out of fear plus I still loved him. We have two small children together. Believe me, it hurts still to this day, to think of what my children had to see and hear. He made me believe that something bad would really happen to me if I did leave. That was his way of securing himself. Don't take that lightly though. I was fortunate to be able to leave. It took years to do so cause I literally had no where to turn to. Out of desperation, I had to move back home with my mom. I had been through numerous counseling, but we never continued therapy (mainly his decision). The abuse was like a vicious cycle. One minute he was sweet & the next the devil. No matter how many times I was told it wouldn't happen again, it did. It was up to me to put a stop to it. And I did. However, after our divorce, we began to see each other again and still are. We live in separate houses, but his control of me is no longer over me. He still persists that I move back home. I have not seeked the courage to do so. As for you, from personal experience, the more you allow him to do these things, the worse it's going to get for you and your child. He will continue to think that his behavior is ok. Your child may be too little to understand things now, but eventually they will learn. Especially when he/she starts attending school, he/she will have loose lips. Please think this through. And I will do the same. Best of luck to ya.