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| Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:30pm |
I had left an abusive relationship a little over 2 monthes ago. He was verbally and pyshically abusive to me. I have a 5 year old son alsowith this guy. I have tried to since we broke up to allow my son to see him but in return my ex has always treated me like crap infront of him or used it as an excuse to fight with me. Well it has been a little over 2 weeks since he has seen him or talked to him. He called yesterday and wants to see his son. My question, is he using my son to get to me or does he really miss him and sincerely wants to see him. When he called he was very nice for a change and I thought that something was wrong with him. I am also afraid of something else. I took myself and my son out of that relationship because I was afraid that my son would turn out like his father which was my worst fear. Now I am wondering if I allow him to see his dad and let say he starts treating his new girlfriend the same way he treated me what kinda of affect would this have on my son. I am sort of stuck I want to let his father in his life but I do not want my son to turn out like him. What do I do? I know he will never change and that he is going to treat ever new girlfriend just as he treated me.

Hi crk, welcome back -
I'm not a parent, so I can't exactly comment on the second part of this situation.
CL-Blueliner4
Good luck sorry I'm not much help.
Peace and hugs,
Cheryl =)
The minute you settle for less than you
Put it this way if I let our children visit with there father alone and someone decides to report it, even though child services isnt in my life, they can quickly get back in my life becuase of the DV. They witnessed it and were in the same house when it was going on 3 and 4 years ago and they could bring up charges agianst me if they really wanted to even if nothing happened. So women have to really think about this one sometimes and tread very carefully. Is it worth the risk of losing your child forever? When your married I dont know what happens, bit when your going through a divorce the custody goes right along with it and visitation which you can fight or set up for supervised or whatever. They do look at everything. i dont know about crossing state lines though, but some states if your fleeing from abuse need to relocate there are laws to protect the victims.
Hi, mom2and.
Peace and hugs,
Cheryl =)
The minute you settle for less than you