Where do I start?

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Registered: 05-28-2004
Where do I start?
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 2:59am
Hello! I am new here. If you are wondering what sweet_sins means the best things in life are considered the sweetest sins.

Where do I start.....my exboyfriend and I broke up in Dec. it ended after he kicked me out before marking up my body. My heart bleeds and hurts so much, for the two + years we spent together, not once, but twice he laid his hands on me. How do I get past the crying and the pain, how do I deal with the courts and the charges I placed against him? My mom tells me I did the next girl a favor, but I feel so guilty. Maybe I shouldn't have pushed his buttons.

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Registered: 02-10-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 6:56am
Welcome sweet,

Don't look back and feel guilt. You did the right thing. Time will heal the pain. Start reading the homepage and learn more about abuse. This abuse would have only got worse in time. You may want to seek counseling to help you focus more on yourself now. One thing abusers do is make you focus on their needs so much that you lose yourself. Finding yourself takes time, but when you do you will enjoy those sweet sins so much more.

Hugs,

Terry

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 2:16pm
WHOA! Hold on - maybe YOU shouldn't have pushed HIS buttons???!!!! YOU didn't! He CHOSE to beat you physically and emotionally. You get past the tears by reading posts here and other boards, you'll see you made the right choice.

I'm VERY proud of you for pressing charges. Had one of my abusers exes done the same, I might have my original nose, not the one the surgeon had to piece back together.....your mom is right.

Court is an emotional roller coaster and there's nothing to be done about that except to prepare yourself for it. be clear and concise and NEVER answer a question you do not fully understand. His lawyer is there to make you look like a jerk. Don't take it personal. He's just trying to feed his family. Respect the court and the judge and you'll get through this.
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Registered: 11-11-2003
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 12:01am

Welcome to the board, sweet_sins.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you