heres the skinny

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heres the skinny
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:34pm
I left town and everything that wouldnt fit in my car and made it across 3 states and had to turn around and come back. Spoke with my att and she said that I needed to be here. He is in jail now for 90 days for violating RO. Have to go to court tomorrow.


Talked with att today and x agreed to plead guilty to false imprisonment and ashault if we dropped the rape charge. After talking to Chris and Dharma, I turned down the deal. Tomorrow is to set trial date. I am worried that I will not be able to prove rape because I went with him willingly, and I never said no. I know that he knew I didnt want to, but I was so afraid that I didnt fight him, I thought it would be easier. I really thought that if I fought him he would kill me. I know I should have faught him, but the fact is I didnt, so was it rape?

Van

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 5:31pm

Given history, that shouldn't be a problem (at least I hope it won't be!).

CL-Blueliner4

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 7:07pm
Van,

Sending you all the love, prayers and positive thoughts for tomorrow that I can muster.

Huge hugs!

Christine

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 9:11pm
Hi Silver and Blue,

I thank you for your response, and prayers. I need them right now. I am so scared that I am not going to be able to do this. I know that if I see him, I will freeze up. He has that effect on me. I just freeze up and loose all my senses. I wish I had just stayed away. I seriously thought about taking the deal because then I wouldnt have to testify or see him. But Dharma and Chris convinced me that I needed to see this through. I can always leave after the trial. I did talk with the shelter and an advocate is going with me tomorrow. My att said that she would do her best to sheild me from him. Chris called her boss (my old boss) and told her what was going on and she got the day off so that she can be there for me. My att was glad that I chose not to take the deal. I called my att and told her what blue said about keeping him in jail or I am outta here. I will run so fast if he gets out, I know he is really mad at me, and is getting more mad every minute that he sits in jail. If he gets out he will kill me, I know he will.

Van

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 12:46am

Here's what I tell everyone going to court:


1) Look professional.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 06-10-2003
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 4:23am
Van,

blueliner is right I am fairly new here and don't really know you and yet I do know you. We all do. We are are with you, we are here for you. I can't pretend that I have a lot of knowledge but I am a good listener and believe in you. You can do it. !

Lots of hugs! and good luck : )

trav