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Totally destroyed
| Mon, 06-07-2004 - 5:33pm |
My husband of 3 years is physically and emotionally abusive. Since ive been with him ive suffered broken bones and degredation. Before we were married he treated me like gold. Now he is very controlling and cruel. I stupidly kept leaving and going back. I had to leave my job cuz he works there too and became abusive at work. I cant get him in trouble at work cuz he has 3 kids to pay child support for and in his words if he goes to jail when he gets out I will be killed. (He has been to jail as a juvinile for attempted murder..I didnt know this either pre marriage).If I go to the cops he will hurt me permanently by hiring "some black girl to beat the crap out of me" He appears very educated, charming and refined but in reality he is a street thug from the "ghetto". The law does not scare him and he thinks he is above it. He has a lot of sociopathic traits. Of course I didnt see them until after we were married. After I left my job i again stupidly went back to him (im from another country and am very isolated here) Well as soon as I no longer had any income things got even worse. (I was making double what he was and spent most of my money on him as well as paid all the bills previously.).. Can you say meal ticket?!!
It didnt take long before his true colors came out. He said what good are you now...Wheres my new car, why cant you pay for me to go to school now.. etc. He says im going to get another woman to pay my bills and divorce you. He then locked me out of the house without even my clothes. I know I should be glad to get rid of this monster but now to add insult ot injury he said he was going after my tax shetered annuity and retirement money. (we have no real property or kids). I am a mess psychologically and it will totally destroy me to give him anything of what little I have left. I just want to leave the country and forget about all this but since i got married in a community property state people say he can get my cash.
I feel so depressed I dont know what to do.
Any help would be sincerely appreciated.
It didnt take long before his true colors came out. He said what good are you now...Wheres my new car, why cant you pay for me to go to school now.. etc. He says im going to get another woman to pay my bills and divorce you. He then locked me out of the house without even my clothes. I know I should be glad to get rid of this monster but now to add insult ot injury he said he was going after my tax shetered annuity and retirement money. (we have no real property or kids). I am a mess psychologically and it will totally destroy me to give him anything of what little I have left. I just want to leave the country and forget about all this but since i got married in a community property state people say he can get my cash.
I feel so depressed I dont know what to do.
Any help would be sincerely appreciated.

Hi Cuppyis, and welcome -
I read your post earlier today, but I was too busy to respond at work.
First things first, you really do need to get out of there, and there are ways to do it.
CL-Blueliner4
I know I am going to sound ridiclous to you at this moment but first and foremost thing that i want to tell you is that please try to forgive him . I know logically he should be sent to jail for hurting you but what emotional losses you have suffered will not be restored by sending him to Jail .
Matthew 6:14-15, "For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."
Till you forgive him you will not be peaceful .
Do not be afraid of him. Hate the sin and not the sinner. Satan is stealing away your peace and happiness hrough your husband and You have to know where to tell satan to go . Believe me nothng is impossible for God . He can do same miracles today which he did to Abraham and Moses . You are like those israilites under slavery in land of Egypt but then God broght them out of that . Just have faith and you can ask God to sort out things for you . you just have to surrender your life situation into his hands. God can move mountains . Your husband is just a human , a creation of his hands.
Just remember Jesus spoke directly to the devil -- and so must you.God told us to resist the devil and he would flee. We must believe and act on God's Word.
Sister I know right now it is difficult for you but please try asking God to help you . Cry your heart out to Him and see the change in your life but then first forgive your husband in your heart. you do not have to publically declare that you have forgiven him but I can understand that you have marks on your heart which need to be washed by the blood of Jesus.
Just remember God loves you today and forever . We may change but Jesus never , Glory to his name.
Feel free to write to me at bms_chd@hotmail.com. I will be praying for your situation.
My faith says God can transform your monster husband into an angel but God needs your faith to do that for you.
With love in christ,
Nidhee
Welcome to the board, cuppyis.
Peace and hugs,
Cheryl =)
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