I am so scared...

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Registered: 09-24-2004
I am so scared...
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 9:56am
Hello all,

I have been a "lurker" here for about a month now and was hoping that someone could give me advice. My xh is a very controlling, munipulative man and I am very afraid of him. I had a protective order against him but it expired a few years ago. Last week I got a call from him and he was verbally abusive. He went on and on about how much he hated me, he never loses and I will regret this someday. I am terrified and not sure what to do. I guess my question is, does anyone know anything about getting a second protective and if it is even possible?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 12:05pm

Hi there and welcome (officially) -


Absolutely re-apply for the OP and see what the odds are of getting it permanent.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:21pm
I am concerned about even trying to get one to tell you the truth. He was so angry with me last time and had his family and friends torment me. I have been in a court battle with him recently (he wanted to take my kids from me) and the courts just loved him. He snowballed the Guardian ad Litem and she told the courts to give HIM full custody and me visitaition even though I have doctors reports of abuse, police reports... They have even ordered us to go to family counseling, starting tonight, because they say I have a problem communicating with him. I am afraid of him so I keep conversations to a minimum!

I am also afraid that if I go to the courts, they won't believe me becaue he is such a good liar.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:54pm

Contact your local women's shelter immediately.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 8:20pm
I went to my counseling session, he sat there with is arms crossed, legs crossed, smile on his face and bold faced lied. I brought up the fact that he threatened me and he said..."no, I didn't. She tries to make me out to be the bad guy and obviously no one else believes that."

I just cannot win.