Nasty Threats

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2003
Nasty Threats
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:20pm
It's been a long time since I have posted. My husband has been improving so I just waited to see what would happen. We just had an argument after 2 or 3 months. It seems like he is worse than ever. This time he threatened to break the television. This is the first time he has done this and I don't know what to think about it. I have called the police on him twice because he was blocking me from leaving a room. I have left him twice and came back both times. I told him that I would call the police if he broke the T.V. and send him to jail. I don't know what to think but am afraid he will do it. He knows I like to watch T.V. so he thinks this will be a big punishment. I also refuse to file taxes with him. He will just keep the money from the return and I am not going to let him use my deductions to get a refund that I will not be able to spend. Any feedback will be appreciated. Am I just being afraid for no reason?? I am very confused and can't seem to stay away when I do leave.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:41pm

Hi there, and welcome back -


Let's split your post up, and take the subject of the threat first.

CL-Blueliner4

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2003
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 2:32pm
Thank you for answering. I know that I need to find help and have tried to get it. He does everything in his power to see that I can't get to appointments. I do not have a car and don't have a driver's license so have to rely on him for transportation. I have been going to church and have made friends so do have some help to move out. I don't usually fight with him any more at all, just walk away and ignore him. I don't even care if I fight or argue with him because I know he is lying about what ever he is telling me. I will not lie for him anymore and have told him so. He got a ticket for driving without insurance and tried to blame it on me and I just laughed at him. He wanted me to go to court with him and lie for him about it and I refused to go. I just ignore him and try to take care of me. I have reached the point of understanding that he does not care about me and just uses me to help pay the bills or whatever he can still get from me. I have been saving money and each month I am getting closer to leaving him. Last time I came back because I did not have enough money to rent an apartment. I pay all of my own bills medical,prescriptions, clothing and pay half the expenses and you would think that he would appreciate this but he does not. It is hard not to hate him for all the abuse he has done, but I seem to just not care at all about him.