ActiveAmber? Everything OK???

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Registered: 05-18-2004
ActiveAmber? Everything OK???
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Fri, 11-19-2004 - 7:43am

Wanted to send this out to "activeamber" since we havent heard from her in a while. I havent seen her post since last week and know her H was going to a counselor.


A- Did he go? How did it go? Are you alright? Whats happening in your life, anything new?


I dont want to be concerned, so I'll assume the silence = positive things going your way.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:29pm

Thanks for checking up on me, Sara. :-) He did go to his counselor, and he said it went well. He had to fill out some form and he *said* he was honest about his past behavior and such. I feel like I'm kind of in a holding pattern. I can't walk out when he's supposedly getting help. And he does seem to be communicating much better. He's not harassing me about money and he's being respectful when he's talking to me. I'm still very guarded about it all because I know he could revert in a matter of seconds, but right now, life is somewhat peaceful. I'm just so worried that I'll end up getting lulled into complacency ... again. But at the same time, I said do this or I'm outta here. And he's doing it. So what the heck am I complaining about? ;-P It's a tough spot, but I know it'll all work out because this will end up in one of two ways: Either he'll get better and our relationship will improve, or he won't and I'll be able to walk away knowing that I gave it my best shot. I can live with both of those outcomes.

And how are things on your end??

A

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 11:50am

good to hear from you. keep me posted!


DH went to his counseling on Saturday and much to my surprise came home and said he LOVED it. crossing my fingers it stays that way.