My Christmas Punishment
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My Christmas Punishment
| Thu, 12-02-2004 - 3:32pm |
DH is at it again. This time went balistic because my 18 y.o. son took 2 dollars out of a jug on DH's dresser because he needed it, and DH says it's "his" and nobody is to touch it. OH PLEASE!! My son dropped out of college 2 weeks ago, moved in with his buddy and his mom, and is currently looking for a job. I'm helping him the best I can with gas money to put in job applications, and emotional support while going through the process. ok, ds shouldn't have done it, but to get that upset over 2 bucks when we make as much money as we do??! I got so mad when he was still ranting this morning, I told him I wanted a divorce. I've done and done and done for this man, and I expect something in return to forget about it when an 18 y.o. does something very minor - ds hasn't taken anything else that he hasn't brought back, and when he has taken anything, I've felt that he's done it because he really needed it. DH has been nasty to DS since we got married - it didn't show up until right before we were married, and I had hoped it would get better with time. DH is nasty about my son, my son rarely ever says anything about DH, and when he does it's not really nasty. DH is upset that his contact with his 10 y.o. really has been cut off - (not my fault), his mom has renal failure and is on dialysis, his dad has heart failure, and his sister parties all the time and dumps her 10 y.o. on their parents all the time. Plus he's gained back about half of the 55 lbs he lost - again not my fault, but of course he blames me for it. He eats 2 or 3 times what a normal person eats for dinner - I've tried to nicely point this out to him, but it does no good. Why can't I just have a normal life with someone who has sense and reacts like an ADULT??!! I know, I'm whining, but I'm venting too. Sorry. When we fight, all he says under his breath (where I can hear it) is F You - and I call him a few choice names too. I have told him and told him if he doesn't like things around there - LEAVE!!! I'm sick of him pounding on my son who I love dearly. I wish I could just get up the strength and really have him go, I hate to make my daughter do without her dad - but I don't want her to have to be around that kind of disruption all her life either. No bashing, please, I've had enough of it lately. He had our daughter so upset the last 2 mornings going to day care she wouldn't even eat anything in the car - which she normally does.

No bashing because you are acknowledging what is going on in your life, and know that it's not right.
Yeah, your son shouldn't have taken the money without permission, but on the other hand, I wouldn't notice $2 coming out of my change jar!
Thank you so much for the nicest email. I'm not sure what he does, but he did hide the jug and even I can't find it! How silly - we make over $100,000 a year - nothing to sneeze at. You couldn't have asked for a better man last night - attentive to me, playing with our daughter, even compromised on locking our doors - we left the chain off the back door so my son can get in if he needs to during the day. I will concede, though, that my son probably is doing these things to aggravate dh - and that can't be condoned either. I've backed off the divorce now, but I did get to the point of looking at attorney's in the yellow pages. I've talked several times with the local shelter - I call them in a crisis too, and can talk to a counselor immediately. Geez, if they could just stay being like they are when things are going good.......
I can't believe I posted on the Depression Support board about this, and someone actually berated me over not attacking my son over taking 2 bucks!!