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| Sat, 12-04-2004 - 10:56pm |
I have been a member of Ivillage for many years, but this is the first time I have posted ont his board, so I hope this is the place to post this problem and someone can help.
I am trying to find some help for my step daughter. She just left a bad relationship a couple months ago, and her ex boyfriend will NOT leave her alone. They have a 3 year old son together, but they have never been married..............THANK GOD !!!
He makes every excuse in the world to call her. We told him until court date (Dec. 9th) he could call every other night to talk to his son.....ONLY, but he calls and says its important to talk to my step daughter, and he will show up unannounced, he shows up at her work unanounced, and calls her at work, she has asked office people to tell him she can't have visitors, but he'll say it an emergency, when he calls he says he's someone with another company. Today he was following her around a local department store, and finally stopped her and asked if he could buy christmas presents for her other two children (that are not his). He will do anything to get her to come back to him. She ahs gone to the magistrate and they tell her that there is nothing they can do unless he threatens to kill her..............He is not stalking her? He has a 17 year old son, that he has been using as a pwn to make phone calls for him and asks to speak to her, but he messed up when he sent him back across the country today to his mom's. Now I'm afraid he will get worse about following her and calling her. After she left him, a few weeks later she met a really nice guy and she REALLY likes this guy, and I think it could be a long lasting relationship.............if the EX would leave her alone. She tells him to go away, she tells him to stop calling her, she hangs up on him and he has told her he is NOT giving up on her.He leaves notes inside her car. He told me the reason he keeps calling and begging her is so she won't forget him.................I say get a life man !!!! We are all at our wits end as to what we can do about this. Does anyone know what we can do to get him to leave her alone. She has asked the judge for a protective order, but unless he threatens her, they say no. When he calls, he calls late at night to try and catch her with someone, even though she has told him she is seeing someone. My husband works early hours and has to get up at 1:30am, and he will call and wake him up at 11:00pm or later sometimes. Is there anything we can do.........HELP !!!
I am trying to find some help for my step daughter. She just left a bad relationship a couple months ago, and her ex boyfriend will NOT leave her alone. They have a 3 year old son together, but they have never been married..............THANK GOD !!!
He makes every excuse in the world to call her. We told him until court date (Dec. 9th) he could call every other night to talk to his son.....ONLY, but he calls and says its important to talk to my step daughter, and he will show up unannounced, he shows up at her work unanounced, and calls her at work, she has asked office people to tell him she can't have visitors, but he'll say it an emergency, when he calls he says he's someone with another company. Today he was following her around a local department store, and finally stopped her and asked if he could buy christmas presents for her other two children (that are not his). He will do anything to get her to come back to him. She ahs gone to the magistrate and they tell her that there is nothing they can do unless he threatens to kill her..............He is not stalking her? He has a 17 year old son, that he has been using as a pwn to make phone calls for him and asks to speak to her, but he messed up when he sent him back across the country today to his mom's. Now I'm afraid he will get worse about following her and calling her. After she left him, a few weeks later she met a really nice guy and she REALLY likes this guy, and I think it could be a long lasting relationship.............if the EX would leave her alone. She tells him to go away, she tells him to stop calling her, she hangs up on him and he has told her he is NOT giving up on her.He leaves notes inside her car. He told me the reason he keeps calling and begging her is so she won't forget him.................I say get a life man !!!! We are all at our wits end as to what we can do about this. Does anyone know what we can do to get him to leave her alone. She has asked the judge for a protective order, but unless he threatens her, they say no. When he calls, he calls late at night to try and catch her with someone, even though she has told him she is seeing someone. My husband works early hours and has to get up at 1:30am, and he will call and wake him up at 11:00pm or later sometimes. Is there anything we can do.........HELP !!!

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