Protecting myself and my SO

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Protecting myself and my SO
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:08pm

alright girls i have got to get this out in the open to clear my mind but i also need some really good legal advice.

so sunday night my bf's home was broken into and luckily enough the police arrested the four men who broke into his home and are now in jail. that night my bf had to call his exwife to come pick up his children and she was giving him h*** about how bad karma is a b**** and even tried to blame the break in on me. the next day he invited me to run some errands with him and as soon as i hopped in his truck she comes driving around the corner. she was screaming at him saying that if she ever saw him with me that she would take full custody of his children and would never see them again. then she points her finger at me and says, "b**** im not sure if you know it but you just made him lose his children." we both just looked at her like she was a fool and she drove off yelling something out the window. now what she doesnt realize is that she already has full custody of his children, and by law she isnt able to take his kids away because he is not an unfit father and it doesnt matter who he is dating, whether me or some other women, she cant control that and use thats as a means to take away his children.

so with everything that happened over the weekend plus her empty threats, our nerves were pretty frazzled. his exwife has never scared, inimidated or threatened me away(which is her intentions), but she stalks and aggravtes us to no end. and she even had the nerve to get our parents involved which concerns me even more because i feel she is trying to get them to admit to certain things that she can use as evidence in court.

so im wondering if legally is there anything that can be done? i know i can get a restraing order but would it really do anythng at all? she has pulled this act several times but has never taken any action, just alot of screaming and acting stupid in public on her part. is there anything my sweetheart can do to protect himself. i suppose actions like this are expected on his exwife's part and the police or any lawyer wouldn't do much about it, hence the restraining order. ive never dealt with this before but the more time goes on the crazier she becomes and nowadays you just never know how much one person can take until they snap.

just a reminder that while they were married he never cheated on her with me, we were only friends. i have only been around his children once, in a public situation with their fathers supervision. she has stalked and harassed us numerous times and even contacted my parents twice. ive done some research and it seems that i cant get a restraining order but something called a protective order, anyone know about this?

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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 11:39pm
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