I think I got under his skin!!
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I think I got under his skin!!
| Wed, 12-15-2004 - 10:28pm |
Hi. I used to come here when I was seeing a horrible guy in Latin America. I was born in a Latin American country but raised here. When I go back to my birthplace, I'm seen as a tourist to everyone. Someone that I'm close to in that country introduced me to a funny looking short little guy. I remembered meeting him a couple years before that. I was told that he really liked me then. So, when I saw him again he was flirting big time! He even kissed me after talking for about 10 minutes at a party. But oddly enough, I liked his forwardness & confidence. So I agreed to see him the next day. The first 2 days was like a fantastic fairly tale. I actually started to believe that we were quite possibly soul mates. However, 2 days later he started to show me nasty sides to himself (& this was AFTER I slept with him of course..& I know, it was a mistake to sleep with him that early into the relationship). He started criticizing me by telling me that I needed to fix my hair, let it grow longer, lose some weight (I'm 5'8" & I weigh 138 lbs), & possibly get blue or green contact lenses! Towards the end of my stay in Latin America (& the end of the relationship), he informed me that he would obviously have other women chasing him around while I'm gone..so he wanted to make sure that my family wouldn't criticize him if they saw him dating anyone else. One day he even grabbed my stomach in front of 2 of his friends & told me that I'd lose "my gut" by the next time I saw him! He also made jokes to one of my friends saying that "he thought that he asked her to introduce him to a PRETTY girl" (but that same night I told him to go away so I could see if any guy would come to speak with me..because he said that none would because of my weight problem..but SURPRISINGLY enough..2 guys asked me to dance & bought me drinks!..and his friends would even try to flirt with me in front of him!..so when they did that he would grab my private areas in front of everyone when he was drunk!). There were times when he'd promise to see me, but then show up 4 hours late or just not show up at all. At one point he told me not to be so dependent on him & spend more time with my family..but whenever I roamed around on my own to shop or even talk with other young people (who were not related to me) he would get hurt & ask me why I didn't call him so he could join me. He made it seem like I'd never meet a better guy than him..he even had the audacity to tell me what a lucky girl I was to have him. You see, this is a guy who's mommy & daddy have a lot of money in a third world country..so naturally a lot of girls follow him around for ONLY that reason. But he seems to have the idea that he's God's gift to women. Even when I told him that I'm an honor roll student @ my university here in the US & I already have 2 degrees, he called me a "nerd"..and this is coming from a guy who's older than me & still in college (even though people graduate from high school about 4 years earlier than here in the US), he fails everything because he's always too busy partying & spending his parents money on beer. Even his own parents keep telling him to grow up & be more responsbile "like his younger brother." I returned to see my family a year later..and I bumped into him at a bar..but I was smart enough to completely ignore him! A few days later I left without even giving him a phone call..but he called my cousin's house so he could see me..he was shocked that I left without even saying goodbye (haha). The last time I was at this country, I was stupid enough to see him again because he was calling my family's homes constantly asking to speak with me again. When I saw him I was stupid enough to fall for his charms all over again! I made the massive mistake of going to bed with him :{. And of course, the next day he just called me to say that he wouldn't even be able to come to my cousin's home to say goodbye because he "was busy studying." But NOW, he's here in this country..and he actually wants me to drive about 4 hours away from my state just so I can go & visit him..and bring him some beer! When I told him that I'm seeing someone, he said that it's ok because HE'S not the jealous type! but I told him that my boyfriend "is" the jealous type & he'd be pissed. He just brushed it off. But he had the nerve to tell me that if I wouldn't be able to date him, then it would be great if I could find a female friend that would (and possible marry him so he can get a green card!!). Well, I broke up with my boyfriend recently, but I'm now seeing someone else who is WONDERFUL! He's cute, he's smart, he's kind, he's honest, he works hard, & he's wealthy. This is someone that the jerk that I was seeing actually met before..the nice guy went to Latin America with me the first time..but only as my friend. I think that this guy is major competition for the jerk because there were many times when he insisted that he could find the guy a girlfriend "out of the goodness of his heart." He also insisted that he (meaning the nice guy) stay in his (meaning the jerk's) home instead of having him stay in my family's home with me. But I think that he only said this because he knew that the nice guy would get a flock of women because he's young, attractive, blonde, wealthy, & an American..as long as he wasn't in my prescence all of the time. Well, I informed the jerk of the fact that I'm now dating the nice guy. I can't tell if he was upset deep down because he just said that that was nice in a semi-joyous tone. But he still wants me to go visit him..and help him find a job in my state (even though he has relatives in 4 other states where a lot more people speak spanish). Any opinions???..and sorry if this is confusing..I'm trying to figure it out myself.
