Marriage counseling update
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Marriage counseling update
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 11:32am |
So I get dragged to marriage counseling on Saturday......complete waste of time of course. He tried to start with me in the waiting room because he looked at my paperwork and for sense of well being with 1-10 being the range I put a 4. Then when we get in there, he did 99% of the talking. The one time that I mentioned the verbal abuse he got mad and I shut up. The counselor did tell husband that he needed to talk less and listen more and that he needed to stop saying hurtful things because you can't take them back once they're out (YA THINK!). He also told him that his jelousy was making him imagine things that weren't there. (Brilliant man). Anyway I'm supposed to do 5 things to show him attention, and he is supposed to do 5 things to show me respect in the next 2 weeks then we get to go back and talk about it......Whatever. Now he thinks everything is fixed, and he is happy as a lark. He is still being Mr. Wonderful which is really sickening.

I have to agree.
CL-Blueliner4
(gray, nauseous face icon!)
Mr. Counselor doesn't see it. ITA, you should call this guy if you even feel emotionally safe doing that. Make a solo appointment and put the truth in his face. Tell him you know better than to try this but you have no choice because the h will make you regret it. Tell him the h is an abuser, nothing less. If he minimizes it then, he'll never catch on.
Best of luck, hon. Don't give up.
Somehow, this doesn't surprise me.
Do not be surprised if he fails to find a counselor that is actually in network.
CL-Blueliner4