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What do you love about this board?
| Fri, 07-29-2005 - 8:47pm |
A lot of us know this board & iVillage itself has been around for quite some time and is one of the greatest website out there on the internet.


This board has served two purposes for me. Over time I have learned that those who have never experienced such pain have trouble hearing about it from the sufferer. There may be initially a sense of sympathy, but later is way too much negativity for them to handle. To me it seems that people who are otherwise the nicest of people will turn their backs on you as their own mode of self defense. I have seen this in myself at its extreme. AHL was possibly the most negative person on the face of the earth and nothing could console him. I started out with sympathy for this pathetic animal, but then only after years of dealing with it, it wore me down and I couldn't take the negativity anymore (though I dealt with it far longer than is normal for a non-abused person). I started to recoil when he would talk about a bad day. So I thought that, hey, it is probably a natural reaction. It isn't necessarily cold but most people CAN'T hear everyday about what any AH has done to one or how the AH has hurt one yet again. But I think one still needs to talk about it. This board has provided a release at anytime it is needed. One can complain, show pain, show any emotion they want to and nobody will turn their back on them. It provides a place to let out steam and a constant source of energy where any individual person couldn't possibly have dealt with everything that has to be said. It is a life saver in that respect.
The second benefit of this board is to get advice of course. Without hearing of other people's experiences, there is no way I would have known how very 'not alone' I really was. To hear of how other people handle the same problems gives a rich resource of ideas on how to heal more quickly and improve one's life. It helped lift me out of that well of misery that I might have otherwise been stuck in.
This board is a wonderful tool and indespensible for anyone who is going through what we are/have gone through. A million thanks to those who keep it going strong.
EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!! This "board" makes since of where we are, how we got here and that there are wonderful people that do understand and CARE. Be happy and everyone have a wonderful day,
Luv, Sherry
I love that this board has helped me understand myself and that there isn't something inherently wrong with me, just the relationship I had been in. It helped me understand that the whole relationship had been unhealthy (instead of just a few arguments that got out of hand as I had thought) and that I needed to take the time to get to know myself and heal so I didn't end up with another man like my ex (or worse). It gave me the strength to start listening to my inner voice again and to no longer let others push me into doing what they wanted instead of what I wanted and needed for myself. I lurked a long time before I had the guts to post, so thank you to everyone who shares here - although you get feedback from posters, you probably don't realize how many lurkers are also benefitting from what you post.
-sang
When I started posting here in October of 2002, I was a demoralized shell of a person who had been through a living hell, not just with my marriage, but dealing with the jerkoff while trying to learn how to manage a chronic illness.
CL-Blueliner4
This board has been a life-saver to me. The level of support here is AWSOME! The information that I found here has helped me to understand what is going on in my life and to know that I am not CRAZY. I have gained a lot of insight into my relationship with my husband and also with past relationships. Thanks to every one that comes here to post, I have learned a lot from you. Thanks also for reading my posts (rambling though they may be at times). It helps so much just to be able to come to a safe place with women just like me, who truly understand where I'm coming from, where I am, and where I'm going.
Tammie