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| Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:58pm |
I need some help. Can anybody recommend a book dealing with why a person may continue to be attracted to the same type of character? I've already read "Never Good Enough". It was a good book but I still couldn't figure out why I'm attracted to verbally and emotionally abusive people. In high school I had a boyfriend who was funny and witty but many times at my expense. Then I moved on to the same type of person and married him. I was married to him for over 25 years. I lived in a verbal/emotional abusive relationship, only to divorce him and find myself in another relationship with a man, who again, is funny, witty, and I enjoy being with him but his jokes are always at my expense.
I read the "signs of verbal abuse" and he's your typical "cut you down person" but is "only joking". And I continue to do this! Am I nuts!!! Obviously I have a problem. I always considered myself to be self-confident, high self-esteem, I like myself, am independent but find myself attracted to these types of "bad boys" so to speak. I keep thinking it was something in my childhood. My mother and I didn't have the best relationship, yet my dad was the best gentlemen any woman could ever find. So much for the theory you look for your father in a man. Can anybody recommend a book on this?

Here is a link down in the Off Topic Section I posted here while back that might be able to further assist you.
Hi September, welcome -
The books on the virtual bookshelf are a good place to start, but I really recommend getting in touch with your local women's shelter and inquiring about their counseling programs.
CL-Blueliner4