Ok, now what?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-06-2005
Ok, now what?
2
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 8:04am

First, I would like to thank everyone for their response. They were very enlightening. But my question is, now what? Is there any way to stop this? How can I take control of the situation? I am not a weak person and I will stand up for myself. I just can't believe I didn't see it. Having lived through it for over ten years, you think I would have recognized it. I thought I had gotten away from it. Thanks for all the help and support.

Niki

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
In reply to: niki149
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 8:57am

The one way that will cease the abuse is up to you.

5yrssm 
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2005
In reply to: niki149
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:44am
You can't stop it. You can't control it. No matter what you do. Only he can stop it and he has to want to stop it. Only 1% of abusers do want to stop and that is after long treatment specifically for abusers. Not regular or couple's counseling. You may be a strong person, but he wants to be in control at all costs, whatever it takes, so if you stand up to him,he'll just put you back in your place no matter what it takes.