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| Mon, 08-29-2005 - 1:03pm |
Hello,
I have been married to my husband for 4 years and I have come to realize that his behavoir is alarming and not normal. I was young when we got married and as I have gotten older I have come to this realization.
My husband is 28 years old and has had 8 jobs, the longest lasting one was 2 years. He has been fired from 2, both of which he claims where not his fault and accused of being abusive to an employee in another job.
During our marrige he has had violent outbursts, he has hit me 3 times and threatened my life on several occasions. He though can go months without an outburst and be perfectly nice During the outbursts it is like he shuts down, becomes very cold and unfeeling to the point where I can cry and cry and he doesn't care.
I recently found out that he has been violent with both his mother and father in the past, and he has a very unhealthy relationship with his father. His father and him talk on the phone al least 6 times a day and get into horrible fights, he seems to seek his father's approval on everything.
He is also has taken pain medication for almost 2 years straight for a number of different ailments and now can't seem to go without them.
The main reason I stay is because of our young daughter, I am so worried about him getting even joint custody if I leave him.
Thank you

Welcome to the board tol....
Yes you are in a violent relationship & what concerns me is that I'm afraid that because he is physically hitting you & even threatened your life, your daughter could be next.