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| Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:48am |
After reading all the links in the board I must say i am begining to feel better about my self. I adopted the saying "Stop it!!" every time DH starts bothering me with his stupid jokes about me. It worked, I guess you also have to say it in an assertive form. I also began ignoring stupid comments from him because I realized they were meant to enjoy my reaction so now I learned to turn around and go on with my business "without paying attention to his words" I will keep puting borders to his actions and words and see what happens, I need to get stronger to get out since it involves a lot of issues.
I read about some pepole going to counseling and I agree with those who think that when you say everything you feel in front of abusive husband it hits you back. If not the same day then another. I went with my husband to a psycologyst because our daughter was having some problems and we ended up talking to her about our problem, it was terrible because he told her that everything was my fault and that I have not changed in 18 years (what a joke) so it did not help him change, it just helped me understand who i was dealing with and she also helped me realize that I was playing the victim role all the time. you won't believe it but he actually made fan of that and told me "poor ... you play the victim" and things like that, anyway it took a while until he forgot it all and went on to a different issue.
Well I hope you are all well and far away from the hurricane zone.
Love to all

Hey hon,
I'm glad you're feeling better and have started to look at your circumstances with eyes more open.
CL-Blueliner4