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tired of being torn
| Thu, 09-08-2005 - 9:22pm |
Okay, so, I've been seeing this counselor on my own now for, oh, about 5 sessions. I have explained what I am feeling, what has happened and how I don't want to fall into a deep depression again. So, every time I go, he asks me what I hope to accomplish, what I am looking for out of therapy. I tell him, I don't want to get depressed, I want to be able to talk to someone without getting yelled at. So, our last session, he goes into how is it possible that "due to my personality style, I am more sensitive than most". I know I'm sensitive, I realize that, but, geez, my H pulling a knife out in an argument, like that isn't supposed to bother me? I don't know, maybe I'm over-reacting to what he said, and I know I need to look at all perspectives, but, the big picture is, there isn't one incident, there are several and I already doubt myself enough..... I'm just feeling discouraged, thanks for listening to me vent. I know I have support here, I shouldn't need to feel that I need it from my therapist I guess........

Eeks. No, you don't need to hear that. We hear that stuff from our abusers already. Threatening you with a knife is exactly that and no matter how "sensitive" you are, it remains a knife.
Is this guy DV trained? My guess is no. If you're at all interested in switching therapists, call the nearest shelter and get names. Many places offer services free of charge, and they'll understand.
Big hugs and best of luck.