PLZ HELP-my daughter is in bad marriage

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2005
PLZ HELP-my daughter is in bad marriage
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Sun, 09-18-2005 - 8:44pm
hi, new poster here and need to talk. long story short, my 22 year old daughter is in an abusive marriage-for 3 years. she has 2 kids and one on the way. we love them all dearly--except the "supposed husband". she has left him at least 3 times before, and just recently threatened again. but he always claims"you'll be back in 2 days"....and she really does go back in two days! i am sooooo worried for her welfare and my precious grandbabies. they just receintly moved 4 states away...and the abuse, mentally( i know for sure) and i think physical(though my daughter says no) has gotten worse. he used to drink but quit, and still does it, which to me makes it even worse since he can't blame the actions on being drunk. what can i do to help my daughter see this ugly cycle they are in? sometimes she see it, then he might be ok for a couple weeks amnd she says things are fine...i just want him to leave and quit hurting my daughter. she used to be so bubbly and happy, now sad and down most times. that sparkel in her eye isn't there when he is around. but when he is gone, she is happier. what can i do? any suggestion will be appreciated.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 9:39pm

Welcome to the board lislp...


Here is a link from our off topic section as to how to help a loved one in a relationship like this: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rldomesting&msg=25344.1&ctx=0


He definitely sounds abusive and shows the signs of the typical abuser.

5yrssm