why still nervous?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2005
why still nervous?
3
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:02pm
Hi,
I have filled out my GAL papers, and have made my appointment (09/27/2005). My attorney says we should be okay...I have the 'upper hand.' Husband abuses alcohol (documented), limited involvement with the children the past 4 years,ect.. He's a controlling, manipulative creep. Still living in the same house with him (separate sleeping arrangements). He can't understand why I don't want to be around him....trying to limit contact as much as possible and still tend to my children's needs. In the past 2 months he's been a 'presence' in their lives (imagine why, eh?) Will the GAL see through this? Im just afraid he's going to bamboozle him. I have documented incidences of alcohol abuse....also have a journal I started documenting his verbal/emotional abuse especially during alcohol use and in front of the kids. I'm requesting primary placement, he's requesting 50/50 and won't budge,why doesn't he just admit he needs help, get it and concede?....why am I still so nervous? Is this normal?
webster
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:36pm

Because abusers will NEVER, EVER get it.

5yrssm 
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 2:47pm
Thank you.....
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 9:20am
Why? B/c he is an alcoholic in denial AND an abuser who doesnt want to give up the control he thinks he still has on you.

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