Make up time

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Registered: 05-05-2006
Make up time
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Fri, 05-12-2006 - 9:21am
Well now after last weekend of him getting in a fight at the bar for pushing me and recording my phone conversations at our house a few days after that. I guess I'm suppose to forget everything and be happy. Which of course I gave in yesterday. First thing he wanted to do was have sex. I felt discussted the whole time. He keeps telling me that we need to end this war we have going on. Well it's not a war until I start standing up for myself. He is driving me crazy!! I'm tired of the mind games, double standards, and so on. He is slowly eating away at my spirit. I am so disappointed in myself for giving in but I know he will turn into the biggest jerk and try to push my buttons!
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Registered: 10-05-2004
In reply to: pattyb2006
Fri, 05-12-2006 - 12:03pm

Yup, he's performing beautifully from the Abuser's Manual here- we now have the "honeymoon cycle", where he tries to kiss up to you. Soon, it will be back to same old same old.

What do you think, now that you can identify what's going on?

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Registered: 05-05-2006
In reply to: pattyb2006
Fri, 05-12-2006 - 2:29pm
Now I'm anxious, scared, confused! It's like I don't want to face reality, because that means he isn't going to change. I can't live like this forever.which he'll turn it around and say I can't either.I'm so depressed that I barely get out of the house. Especially since I've had this surgery on my foot over 2 mnths. ago. The only time I really get out is on Wen. nights which he's trying to stop now because he thinks part of our problem is going out without the other one. I want to leave but I don't want to leave. I hate making my son move again. I started getting a relationship with my daughter again which lives out of town and if I get divorced now, her grandmother will think I'm unstable. It might risk my chance with her again! I feel trapped.Any advice?