Talk about selective memory
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Talk about selective memory
| Thu, 06-29-2006 - 11:22am |
I posted yesterday about how I told him I wanted a divorce and he tried to guilt me about what it would do to the kids and his mom. Thank you for your responses. :-) I agree it's best for the children to get out. Well last night and today he is acting like the talk never happened. For example last night he asked where would I like us to retire at ocean or mountains. AHHHHH. I know he thinks I won't follow thru with it, but I have...the lawyer is just waiting on my go ahead to send him the papers. How can I get through to him that it's over? Oh another thing, he asked me to print out information on self help for anger management, which I did, and he actually read and said yes that was him. I told him though that I did not think he could change he has had this anger issue all his life and it's who he is and would need counseling and training. He thinks he can change just needs to figure out the "trigger". I said okay, take when someone cuts you off while driving....what's the road rage trigger, he didn't think that was part of it. I told him it's in every aspect of his life not just between us. So aggrivating.

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How can I get through to him that it's over?
the lawyer is just waiting on my go ahead to send him the papers.
Send 'em! and Best luck! :)))
How to get through to him?
There will be no mutual agreement, for the reasons Gonna has outlined. He does not consider that you have an opinion or a voice, and therefore he will not listen to either.
You cannot reason with the unreasonable. I know that this is hard, because my husband is much like you- he feels that if he could only explain himself enough, long enough, and give enough reasons, anyone could be brought to understand his point of view. It's a nice thought, but it doesn't work that way. Either they're so thick that they never will get it, or they do get it and just don't care. Either way, consensus is impossible; you're best to get yourselves safe and then serve him with the papers, so that you can get on with life. No amount of explaining will get him to see your POV, much less care, so best to move on as best you can.