How to say "No Sex" *again*?
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| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 12:52pm |
Long story short, no sex since around Xmastime (Dec 2005) (and let me tell you how fun THAT is :P ): I can't get with this man. He's not nice to me, I don't like him, why in heaven's name would I want to get intimate with him??? Not about "using" sex, it's just the idea just plain turns me OFF.
But he still seems to have some idea that there's a chance in H-E-double-hockey-sticks, so he actually noogies up to me, acts all puppy-eyed -- yeah-right, like that's gonna make me forget that a few hours ago you were yelling at me over some absurdly petty matter??? DUHHH! And then of course I get the Big I'm-A-Martyr/You're-A-Frigid-B**** Act when I move away or otherwise extricate myself.
There was a while there where I just caved-in because **I** wanted to get laid (pardon my french ladies, but I think we've all been to the rodeo, so...), but frankly it wasn't that great to have to get half-tanked-up so I wouldn't think about him being there -- an alcoholic version of "Close your eyes and think of England," lol It was just wrong and eventually it made my skin crawl so enough is enough.
What I could use from yall is a decent "script" -- he's actually been told every bit of the above in one form or another, but it just ain't stickin' -- he of COURSE won't accept it.
So do you guys have any ideas of what to say when he does the old sidle-up? I'm thinking "EWWWW" (which is basically all I can think) just isn't it. Honestly, I really don't want to hurt the guy or emasculate him, not just because then his position WOULD be correct, but because I don't play that way; I don't want to stoop if I can help it. I need a way to say "no" that maybe explains my position better, or just gets through...
He's still playing the "make-it-right" game, which from experience is probably BS that will come to nothing (it ain't workin so far, as far as I'm concerned, but I hafta keep my head down and hold it together while I get my ducks lined-up), so I have little doubt he'll try again at some point before this all gets done...
2cents? and Thanks
| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 8:58pm |
