Emotional abuse...lack of compromise...
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Emotional abuse...lack of compromise...
| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 8:46pm |
Hi. I am back again. This time I have stopped divorce proceedings, after finally hiring an attorney from a very prominent law firm in our county. I listened and agreed to give our marriage more time, while HE gets therapy. HE initially stated HE would do anything - go to any therapist - to keep our family together. You know what I am going to say next. He went twice to a therapist who was going to start on the deep issues slowly and work with HIM over time. Says HE knows what HE has to do. HE has made a big change. He is trying and I can see it. BUT, slowly, over the past few months, HE is starting to have his snide comments (screw you, f... you, etc. and of course throwing my filing for divorce to distroy our family back into my face.) I have been quiet and patient. HE is definately emotionally not involved in OUR relationship for the two of us - only for his needs. When his needs are met he is OK. When my needs are not met he won't acknowledge that I have needs. Blah blah blah. Getting to the chase...I received my state insurance license to sell life health and annuities. I affiliated myself with two companies since receiving my license. John Hancock and a very small start up firm. Both companies did not "fit" with my personality and work schedule. JH wanted 50 hours a week and direct cold calling from a phone book for insurance leads. The small company stated they would bring me into their firm as their LONG TERM CARE insurance manager. Once I started with them all they introduced were annuity and stock portfolio leads that I would receive a small commission for a lot of field work and watch them reap the securities investments I do not have my license for. I explained that I wanted to push LTC for their company, concentrate mostly on that sector of insurance. They wanted me to answer the phones at no cost to them in the office while I did the LTC cold calling to obtain appts. I can and will do that at my home office. I am taking the summer off - slowing down really - while my two daugthers are at home. When they are back at school I will increase my training and sales. My husband has decided that it is a good idea for us to PURCHASE an employment agency franchise in our local area - pay a woman $15K - for her list of employer contacts and to be trained by her. They are a company that has been in the area for 30 years but this franchise has been run into the ground. HE has stated that I am not an entrepreneur because I can't see that it is a good deal. Excuse me - when is it a good deal to buy a franchise that has serious limits in its contract clauses and only places $8 to $15 an hour jobs and has a past receivables that is almost in the 6 figures because it is almost impossible to collect from that range of employee. If there is a lucky placement with one of the companies that pay for the placement than some money is made. I do not feel it is a good business decision and HE will not accept my opinion. He is making me feel as if there is something wrong with me. HE actually said there is something wrong with me because I can't see the potential and how I could sell insurance at the same time as running this placement agency. The fact that we have to pay $15K upfront and there is NO guarantee that there is any revenue bothers me. Am I losing my mind, like I feel I am????????
