like this is a big surprise

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like this is a big surprise
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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 12:32am
well he got away with it! we went to court today and as i was only in the courtroom when i had to testify, i understood from the things his lawyer asked me that he basically said he never ever touched me that day and that i was the ranting raving lunatic..heck yes i was when u broke into my home and attacked me! whatever basically it ended up that due to the fact that there were no witnesses tothe incident it was me versus him, his word against mine...and while the judge told him he believes he had problems and that he is an abusive manipulative person, the evidence as set forth does not prove that he assaulted me in the home that day...but he was found guilty of B and E and given a fine and has to finish a few anger control classes...just makes me so angry...i have to live with what he did for the rest of my life, try to find some semblance of normality again while he gets off scot free and i know he didnt learn a lesson...oh and get this! the continuance of the order of protection was denied due to the fact that he was found not guilty of the assault charge, and unless he bothers me repeatedly i cant even get a restraining order...it blows my mind..this man terrorized me for years and made me feel unsafe in my own home, yet i cant have some little piece of paper to make me fel just a little safer when im out and about...all day today after court i kept watching for him because i wouldnt put it past him to harass me now that he has a free and clear path to do so..and halloween is coming so im going to stay up most of the night and my friend sis going to stay with me to watch over everything...and if i catch him doing anything hes going down...i dont care im not putting up with one ounce of BS from him! anyways theres my rant for the week! hows everyone else doing? hope everyone is healthy and safe and like my VS worker said, no matter what the outcome is, you did the right thing for yourself and thats what matters now
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Registered: 08-29-2006
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 9:19am

Oh my God! I'm so sorry what you are going thru.

I hate to say this but can you get out of town for a while. Obviously this isn't a permanent solution but you sound so stressed it might help you relax a bit, clear your head and help you consider new options. None of us should be force from our homes and lives because of an abuser! This makes me (and I'm guessing all of us who come here) really mad.

I will be thinking of you. Please post often so we know you are ok.

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Registered: 05-03-2004
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 7:03pm
wow was my VAS worker every wrong.my case worker called the court today and they told her that the decision and sentence will come down november 14th as the judge wasnt ready to decide yet, and then he pleads to the break and enter...which i thought wa sbeing tried hand in hand with the assault of that day when he entered my home but i guess not..luckily i dont have to go to court anymore, but i just wish it was over and then our divorce could proceed as normal...anyways i might have SOMe happier news come november 14th
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 5:32pm

I can't believe that you can't get a restraining order against him unless he bothers you repeatedly. That is ridiculous!!!

Keep your head up high... and keep track of everything if you get anything from him. E-mails, threatening phone messages... anything.

Hugs. Lauren




Edited 10/26/2006 5:33 pm ET by kookai_lm

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Registered: 05-03-2004
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 6:26pm
i know! thank goodness the retsraining order stays in place until november 14th when everything is decided...but still..if he gets off on these charges, then im stuck waiting and worrying something will happen...i thought the system was made to protect the victim not let them leave in fear again until something happens...cuz i truly believe that the next thing that coul dhappen could end up with me dead, as i know his hearing me testify made him even more angry
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 8:33pm

Javlyn, I'm sick.