Is there any hope for us

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Is there any hope for us
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 2:35pm
My husband hit me this weekend. We got into and agrument. I was yelling at him and he hit me 3 times. We had our share of problems and we argue quite a bit. He tried to be nice to me all day after that but I didn't talk to him much because I kept thinking about him hitting me. Is there any way we can make sure it doesn't happen again. I'd rather not get a divorce and work things out. We can have a good relationship if we worked out a few details but it's seems like we are making progress very very slowly.
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Registered: 03-04-2005
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 2:42pm
History repeats itself. I've never heard of an abuser doing it once. Only that it escalates. If you have ANY way of getting out, DO IT! Don't wait until someone asks you why you put up with it, or it puts you in the hospital or worse. Not one person, involved in this type of relationship (including myself), or professional will tell you there's hope. This is an issue my Bible study grappled with, until we found a Bible passage that deals with marrying a non-Christian, if that's an issue for you. That is how I got this far into my marriage. I stayed the first year because I thought God would be unhappy with me for breaking my vows. If I had known then...now my situation is different, but if it helps someone, I do what I can. Hugs
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 3:25pm

Welcome to the board Mom2jake :o)

I also agree that if he hits you once there is a very good chance that he will hit you again. It will also become a lot worse over time if you continue to stay in the relationship. Does he yell at you and verbally/emotionally abuse you? You need to realize that he hit you becasue of his problems. It is not your fault for him hitting you no matter what he said.

Keep us posted.
Hugs. Lauren

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