can you believe it??????

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Registered: 01-07-2004
can you believe it??????
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 2:24pm
Well, if you read the previous post on my situation, here is the latest. I confronted my Husband when he got home from work about last night. His response was, "but did you see my bruise on my arm from you pinching me?" (he has a small, barely visible mark....not sure if it was from me)I said, have you seen the bruise on my leg? He told me to show him. He is like, "where is it, I can't see it" (I took pics of it!) Then he just laughed and said, "yeah, I guess I overeacted a little, and kicked to hard" Can you believe this guy? I told him "do you know what this is called" He said, "spousal abuse, you do it to me too, why are you documenting everything so you can contact your lawyer again?" and then he laughed it off and walked away. (and he still wanted a kiss) What a jerk. I am slowly coming to grips with this whole thing. I am just wondering what is next, a bone break? Actually in a way I wished it would have been a worse kick....so I could have it documented by someone besides me, and then I could get out that way. But I am glad it didn't too, because I don't want to deal with that either. I am just a little confused on the whole situation. Last time I KNEW why I was leaving and why I wanted to. This time, I am not sure if I should go.....I mean, I understand the abuse....but I think it will get worse for the kids if I leave....I just don't know.
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:28pm

I think the abuse will get much much worse if you stay with this man. If you stay he will get more abusive. He kicked you, what is next, a broken nose or broken arm and bruises all over your body? Your children will see that. Maybe he will eventually turn on your children too. Does he verbally abuse them too? Not just you anymore?

I held so much hope for my abuser to get better, but he failed over and over. He was the same after every incident. I'm sorry, It will never happen again, You can't leave I will be lost without you, tears and tears.... over and over after every fight. Near the end I started to see right thru him. You know what happened after that? He would get mad again when he knew I wouldn't cooperate with him. He would totally switch around to the mean side of him.

I am happy to hear that you took some pics on the bruise on your knee. I hate how he just laughes at it!! He doesn't even think that he did anything wrong!! That is what makes me soooo mad! He thinks he had every right to kick you... NOT.

Keep posting away.. you are a strong women..
Lauren

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 4:25pm

Welcome, Grantsma.