I hate this system!
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| Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:21pm |
Hi everyone, Im new here. I have been reading a lot of posts for a while. Im really angry and confused on how the systems works. I have been back and forth to court so many times over order of protections,divorce. you name it! Anyway, I just recently had my Husband arrested because of the exchange of the kids during visitation he pulled a knife out and scatched up my car in front of my one daughter. I have felt threatened and the cop didn't feel there was any other reason to arrest him. My attorney called for a conference call with the judge to try and get supervised visits. He denied it! There are so many things my husband has done over the year and this judge has denied me everytime. Does anyone have any resources or thoughts on this? I fear my safety and my kids safety. Thanks for listening.
Donna

I cannot FATHOM that he can get away with that!!!!!!!!! Of course, unfortunatly, I CAN fathom it, b/c as my atty said to me once "Family court is the most INeffective way of dealing with peoples problems".
My only suggesstions would be to keep records of anything that happens, & maybe request a GAL (Gaurdian ad litum) who is SUPPOSED to be an advocate for the child.
Keep up the good fight ... R~
Are you in a small town or rural area? We tend to see a lot of this behavior from law enforcement there, unfortunately. :(
Couple things to try. Make sure you document EVERYTHING he does. Write down times, dates, details of every single inappropriate thing he says or does. Save answering machine messages. The idea is to collect enough data that they can't ignore it. You might also try going to the state police if local police will not intervene. Like I said, we do see this behavior from LE in smaller areas; sometimes it helps to keep working your way up the food chain. Above all, don't give up! It can be very frustrating, but can be done.
Can you possibly move to a new area and deal with a different judge? Or can you specifically request a different judge where you are? The knife incident should have at least been a destruction of private property charge. I can't imagine why the cop did not arrest him. You would have more weight with the judge about protection for your kids if he had an arrest record.
It's good to document things but it has to be tangible stuff - like pictures of your car - copies of phone records or emails if he's harrassing you.
Good luck!