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| Mon, 11-13-2006 - 2:20pm |
OK so here goes. I dated this guy for two years, broke it off for good about a year ago. He had no way of bothering me since at that time I moved about 50 miles away to take a new job and he had no idea where I was living, etc. Through an unfortunate coincidence he found out where I work, a small office with about 40 people on a rural road. He also is in the reserves and drills in the same city where I work and live. When we broke up, he kept calling and calling and thratening to kill himself, etc until I moved and got a new number. There was this message board we used to go to and he would post on there weird things like he had no reason to live, and the frightening, "You should put the bottle to your head and pull the trigger" referencing the country song and my past problems with alcohol. He went on these rampages on the message board for about 6 months, then nothing until September of this year. The messages started out nice and asking about me, etc, and the creepy one about how he "saw me" at the big annual reserves picnic since I am in the reserves also. I haven't been to the message board lately to see if he is still on there.
This weekend I went to a wedding in my hometown, and stayed there all night- Saturday. I found out this morning by our bldg maintenance man that someone pried our door open on Saturday night and vandalized the building. It is a 6 story bldg in the downtown section of a small city. It would not be hard to figure out where I live- if he knows where I work and sees my Purple Jeep with the MEDICAL CORPS bumper sticker, it is then parked in front of this building- and you can see our mailboxes from the front window with my last name in huge letters. So anyway this mystery person proceeded to enter the basement, cut the water line, which apparently is near the electric system. According to the maintenance man if someone would have turned the valve for the water it would have come squirting out the break and onto the electric system, basically starting a fire or some other traumatic event. This guy was spotted in the lobby at 4:00-5:00 am by the people who live below me, who were coming home from work. The man asked him what he was doing there and he told them he was waiting for someone. It's hard to not take someone at face value in this situation, since there are about 20 people who live in our building.
So the next day the police came and this person was described as tall, thin, with a "sore on his face." White. Very vague description. I know that is not enough to assume it was the ex, but this was a VERY personal attack designed to cause serious harm to those in the building. Clearly this was not a robbery or junkie looking for cash; they would loot our mailboxes and be gone. This was a calculated attack. It is scary and I don't know what to do since if it was him he can come back any time (I don't think the landlord's idea of putting on a new lock is enough) and of course I have fire escapes to my unit, so that is another option for someone. I live alone.
Any advice or suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going thru all of this. Is there any way that you would want to move? You could try and get a restraining order against your ex. Are the cops going to try and keep an eye on the apartment building from now on? I hope the landlord of the apartment will add some extra security and at least change the locks. Thats all that I can really think of right now.. Hope that helped a bit.
Lauren
Talk to the landlord and explain the situation you left.
Blueliner4
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