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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 1:10pm |
At the the present time I am living in a marriage that is emotional abusive. I have support from my parents and my counselor. I am thinking of leaving, but I am scared. He said he can get really mean if wants to be. I am he third wife. His second wife said he hit her after they married. He also makes a lot of threats of suiside or destroying or my things. Thanks for listening.
Cindy
Cindy

Hi Cindy! Welcome :)
I am happy to hear that you have support from your family and your counsellor. You also have support from this board.. so post as much as you like okay. Are you going to see the counsellor by yourself or with your husband? I ask because it would be a bad idea to go to counselling with an abusive partner.
You will leave when you are ready. Of course you are scared. But if you stay any longer with this man, I am positive that it will get physical. He was physically abusive with his 2nd wife, there is no doubt in my mind that it won't turn physical with you if you continue to stay with this man.
Abusers always make threats when we victims say we are going to leave or break up. Here is a link of a list that abusers will say when we try to break free:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlmakeitstop&msg=11856.1&ctx=4096
Good Luck & post as much as you like. We are all here for you
Lauren
Thanks for replying. My counselor just sees me and I also go to a trauma group,which I call a therapy group for his benefit. He asks questions about what my councelor and I talk about. Thanks again.
Cindy