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| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 1:47pm |
Hey all-
I've posted here a few times. I am in a relationship that has been verbally , emotionally and physically abusive- always worse when he drinks- I can't seem to make myslef want to leave and to tell the truth I'm a little scared about what would happen if I did try. I've thought of it many times and I've thought of staying just as many times.
I cannot drive right now- I lost my license one night when I ran from him and jumped in the car to get away- however I had had some alcohol and managed to get pulled over.
Anyway he has been driving my car from time to time to keep it in okay running condition.
He found a way to bring it home and last night he drove drunk. Called me up having the time of his life and telling me he was out of control and I could here it- said he was seeing 18 images instead of double and seemed to think it was funny. Then he gets home and says the cops are in hid driveway waiting for him and disconnects. I never heard back and his cell was off.
Today he calls me and I told him I didn't want him driving my car drunbk anymore- he has his own car. He has alreadu dented tow others in the last year- so predictably he flips out on me and says I'm putting him into avoidance and that how come he has to listen to me tell him how to live hi life when he brings in an income without having to work- which is true - and I have to go to work- so who am I to tell him and he goes on and on about his successes. asking who am i to determine his competence- I pointed out that he pointed out his own incompetence on the phone himself and he said he would never tell me another thing- so that I can't shove it up his a** and that he would drop my truck off today and let me risk getting caught driving it to keep it in running condition.
I don't know how to respond to this- He hung up on me- but what is so unreasonable about not wanting him to wreck my car??
Even for him and his self imprtance??

I don't know how to respond to this- He hung up on me- but what is so unreasonable about not wanting him to wreck my car??
There is nothing wrong with what you tried to do. The problem here is HIM. He can't compromise like all abusers. He only sees things his way. He is not thinking straight. He especially can't think when he is drinking!
Lauren
>>driving it to keep it in running condition.<<
you can start it every few days and let it run for 15 min, it will stay in good running (not dented) condition.