his threats

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Registered: 04-21-2003
his threats
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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 7:46pm

Hi - Well I got a place in Florida and was feeling pretty good about the place, being on my own, etc. I had to come back to my state to get more things, and so that my daughter's father could see her. I am only here for less than a week so at least I know I have a nice place to be in shortly (signed and paid for). He is being a complete jerk. threatened to call a lawyer twice today. (Please note he gave me his okay on taking our daughter to Florida a thousand times). Now he came to pick her up said "I am calling a lawyer today and you will be lucky if you are not commited!!!!"

Basically I am writing this to vent. He is out of his mind. First of all I have lawyers in my family, second of all he has proven over and over and over he is not capable of taking care of her. Lastly he wants me commited???? What the heck is he talking about??? I don't drink or do drugs. I am a decent mom.

I HATE HIM! I ABSOLUELY HATE HIM!

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Registered: 10-21-2006
In reply to: sam_us
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:48am

Congratulations on your new place! Try not to let his words get to you. You're doing great! Can you leave earlier, without him knowing? He'e just trying to get you feeling bad about yourself, take the credit for how strong you've had to be to get to this point, don't let him take that from you, please! He's threatening about a lawyer, cause now that you have a place without him, it's all he's got to threaten you about. And being a mom, it's probably the most painful thing he can do. My ex used to say he would take the kids and leave state, but he never did, they were threats. Now he hardly ever sees them. Good luck! Have a safe trip back to Florida!

Carrie

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Registered: 05-19-2006
In reply to: sam_us
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 12:27pm

Nice to hear from you :o)

Good job on getting a place in Florida!

Why does he have to be such a jerk! They make it so difficult eh? Do you have this all documented? About him giving you the okay to take your daughter to Florida? I really think that he only wants your daughter because you want her in Florida so bad. Hope that makes sense. That is the way abusers are. They know that us the victims want something so badly... so they go and take that away from us so we can't have it. It can work with many many different things, not just children.

Anyways... good luck :)
Lauren

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Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: sam_us
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 2:09pm
Thank you! I had been so busy I had not been on the computer in a while!!! He actually gave me money for the place - so he looks ridiculous at this point. I am going to document everything he has done though - going back to a year ago. He also paid for the temporary stay place on his credit card while I was looking for a place. (He himself had to sign for it with faxes being sent back and forth, so there is now way he can deny that). I think he just wants to make me feel that I am not capable - that is his best defense at this point. I don't think he wants to really go down the legal road with me - but at this point I really don't know what he will do.