he wants me to think I am crazy
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he wants me to think I am crazy
| Thu, 11-30-2006 - 10:08pm |
He wants me to think I am crazy. That is what he wants. He wants me to doubt myself, he wants me to think I am not capable of anything, he wants to control me. I can not believe he said anything about I will be lucky if I don't get committed. Yes I have been sad around him. But I have never done anything that would qualify for "crazy" I have never done anything bad to my daughter. He knows how much I hate it when he calls me words saying I am crazy, etc. He knows. He does this to hurt me. I can't stand him.

I'm so sorry, I know how you feel. Try not to take his words to heart, because he is doing doing it, like you said, to make you feel incapable and crazy. I'm sure you're a great Mom! I'm really sorry! Hang in there!
Carrie
Yes, all abusers want US to feel like the crazy ones. You sure aren't alone here.... All abusers want US to feel like the crazy ones. They are taking the attention away from them and shining the light on us. We aren't crazy, they are!!
Yes, I also believe he is only saying those things because he knows how much it hurts you. That is just the way abusers are. They are horrible horrible men!
You are capable of anything you want, You are in control now and you are a wonderful mom! Don't let him tell you anything differnt. Take whatever he says to you with a grain of salt. If he says you can't do something, go and prove him wrong.. you can do whatever your heart desires!!
Lauren
Thank you Lauren and Carrie. I went two weeks without crying, really accomplishing a lot. Then I see him and am back here so he can see our daughter, and the grandparents can see her, and I can get more stuff - and I tell you I am a mess all over again. I just think what he said was so low! He was actually nice to me when I was far away and as soon as I was coming back - he actually started being mean again, putting me down. He did absolutely nothing while I was gone. Rotten milk in the refrigerator - absolutely no fresh milk or food in the house for the baby - the house was trashed. All of that I could deal with - but telling me about being commited - that was out of control in my opinion.
Anyway, I am going to try to get some stuff done today. I have Christmas cards to write, more stuff to pack and organize, I am going to talk to him as little as humanly possible while I am up here.
Hey there Sam I've been following your story and I have to agree w/the others on this one.