Did I do, ok????

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2006
Did I do, ok????
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Sat, 12-02-2006 - 7:19pm

Hi ladies,
hope all is well with everyone. Well H, showed up at the door with a cake and 2 presents for dd, he wanted to come in and I said No! :) but do you guys think I did right in taking the cake and gifts, oh and $100. five minutes after leaving he calls and ask if he can take pictures with dd and the cake I said no, because that would be him in the house.
He asked what was i doing exactly tomorrow I said i'm playing it by ear, and I said goodbye, he hasn't called again.
I think it was good that I didn't let him in and I think I showed him I am serious, it's over, no more. Do you guys think he got the message, I mean he has this really weird way of thinking.
I need words of encouragement from ivillage.

Lisa

P.S.
can anybody help me with a resume, any websites on where I can go to write a good one, honestly I suck at writing resumes.

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2006
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 8:13pm

Yes, I do think you did the right thing. I also think it is fine that you took the cake and presents... after all it is your daughters dad right.

I think eventually he will get the message if you keep doing what you're doing. If you give in even once, he will keep on trying and trying. Abusers just don't think we are strong enough.. but we show them wrong. We are strong. It might take awhile to show him enough is enough... but that is just how abusers are. They try and try to get us under their control.

Hmm.. about the resume. Have you tried to google resume writing or anything like that? I will try and look and see if I can find anything to help you out.

Lauren

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2003
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 8:24pm

Hi - I think you did a great job!

Doing resumes used to be part of my job - I revised and helped write tons of them. If you email me I will help as much as I can!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
Sun, 12-03-2006 - 12:02am

Well, all I can say is


GIRL, YOU ONE HUNDRED PERCENT ROCK!!!!!!


that has got to be one of the hardest things to do with an abuser and YOU DID IT!!!!


I am so proud.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 11:44am

Good for you! I wish H weren't here with me, and I could close a door on him. I think you did the right thing. The money will go towards your kids, the cake is for your DD, nothing wrong with that. Stay strong! Hope I can be as strong as you are!

Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 1:28pm

Hi Lisa,

How did it go yesterday at the Birthday party?

Lauren

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 2:33pm

Thankyou for the STEEL OVARIES AWARD, I will accept with great honor!

Thankyou, you gave me the greatest kool-aid smile :)

Lisa