He called the cops on me!!!

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Registered: 10-21-2006
He called the cops on me!!!
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 11:24am

I was wrapping presents in the living room when they walked in. I didn't know he called. My heart is broken, I had to take the cops upstairs, bring my 2 youngest that were still awake in bed downstairs, so they could talk to my teenagers. I had to wake them up to talk to the freaking cops! I hate him! I had an arguement with the girls, but they told the cops exactly what I did. Why would he call? Just to be cruel.

Before last night I was tempted to ask that we deal with our crap after Christmas, plus we have 3 birthdays this month. I really believe he was doing this cause he's supposed to go to the lawyer tomorrow. I called him at work this morning, all I said was that I didn't see any reason for the girls to get woken up with cops in their room, he said he was writing me a letter, I told him I didn't want it and hung up. Guess what? He knew about my appt with the DV counselor, said (name of town) people will talk. Than this morning he claims that he didn't say that, he overheard me tell the cop. I don't buy it, cause the day I had the appt, he had business cards from the factory down the road. He would've passed my van to get there.

The darn cop told me to call back if there were any more problems, and I called after he obviously had known where I had been, and was saying stuff to me, so I called back. They were less than helpful. He told them the 1st time he was sleeping in the car, but no, he came in to screw with me, and I call, they tell me if they come back here one of us is going to jail. I just put all of the presents away and started putting up the tree. Merry Christmas! I can't make any sense of this! I just wish I could cry, but the kids are here. All the times I was afraid, I didn't call the cops cause I was more afarid of what he'd do if I did, I didn't want the kids to have the cops at their house. My Mom called one time, cause I was on the phone crying and he unhooked and broke the phone. The cop asked me if I had ever called any of the times he had done stuff, I told him I was afraid to. When you move in with a guy that tells you he's got almost 5 acres, so he knows where he'll bury you, you might be a bit afraid to. He's told me I better not ever call the cops on him.

I'm a SAHM and day care provider, so what's left to take from me? My credibility as a mother and sitter. That's why he did it. Cause that's what's most important to me. I don't know what to do. We don't have long distance and I can't call the DV counselor or my lawyer until tomorrow when I can buy a phone card! I tried calling my mom and cousin collect, but their phones don't accept collect calls. I can't take this anymore! He told the cops I threatened him! All I said was that I hated him. I do!

Thanks for listening. I'm going to try to email my lawyer. I need to get out of here before the divorce starts going through.

Carrie

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 1:12pm

Hi Carrie,

I'm sorry to hear about you going through all of this :(

Who knows why he called the police on you? He is probably trying to twist the story aroun on you and put the blame on you. You are still living with him right? If he scares you, you need to call the police. It needs to be on record of all the times that he has scared you. Do you write in a journal? Save e-mails or messages he leaves you? Keep a record of everythiing!!

You can always call the DV hotline number, because that is a toll free number. That will give you some time to vent to someone who knows exactly what you are going thru.

Big Hugs to you
Lauren

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Registered: 10-21-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 1:34pm

My being a Mom is all that keeps me going, he's trying to destroy me. I do live with him, I run day-care from home so it'd be hard to leave. Nearest relative with enough room would be an hour away, or else I might just go. I write in a journal sometimes, not often. I hide it cause he's looked for and read through it before. He's smart about not putting things in writing.

He came home for lunch, gave me a letter. He says he called them to calm me down. I'm sure, he must be really intimidated by me being 5ft6in and all 115 pounds of me! I think of the times he's thrown things, or screamed so close to my face that I've had his spit on me, but my telling him I hate him justifies a call to the cops! I'm sorry for going on, I'm just a mess.

Thanks again, Carrie

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 2:22pm

Hey Carrie,
My prayers are with you, please call the hotline, it's toll free love, I am thinking of you, sending you my angels to watch over you.

Lisa